tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-87707182888304832562024-03-12T22:07:32.131-07:00The Polite One's InsightsEtiquette Advice Articles by Etiquette Consultant and Author Rebecca Black: Parties, Gifting, Weddings, Holidays, Relationships, and more.ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-47272146406905459622022-01-19T12:36:00.004-08:002022-01-19T12:36:56.869-08:00New year, new abode? You’re registering? Really?<p style="text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEijXAc6OUcyvb10cqs1AG0bZctns73h7sK4uIjokVB0uhQRe4wjoYcp8e6U-3WLLyNWb0n5rSdMnzUDuHqMjV7CsRkMRxs6umIHetABvR8ziytroW1sULLL9AI1yM6yTTFfEW7_CGV3p3e_GCy-cU5LOg5-Ol8DA_b4ipB5-NNqUbv_dTyJ0K-_NxJL=s2048" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Welcome Home sign; housewarming" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="2048" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEijXAc6OUcyvb10cqs1AG0bZctns73h7sK4uIjokVB0uhQRe4wjoYcp8e6U-3WLLyNWb0n5rSdMnzUDuHqMjV7CsRkMRxs6umIHetABvR8ziytroW1sULLL9AI1yM6yTTFfEW7_CGV3p3e_GCy-cU5LOg5-Ol8DA_b4ipB5-NNqUbv_dTyJ0K-_NxJL=w320-h320" title="Welcome Home Sign" width="320" /></a> </div><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Celebrating the new year
with a new home? If so, you may be
considering a </span><a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/housewarming-gift-cards.html"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">housewarming
party</span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> to break the new place in.
Often homeowner hosts this commonplace party for close friends, family,
and—perhaps—a few new neighbors. The
premise is that you are "warming your home with love." <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: center; text-autospace: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Not <i>stuff</i>
from others.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">While gifts are common,
they are typically small token </span><a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/birthday-party-advice-5.html"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">gifts</span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">, such
as candles, picture frames, wine, plants, or a coffee table book. However, gifts should never be expected and
never the focus. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: center; text-autospace: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
gift table. It’s not polite.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">There seems to be a bit
of confusion surrounding this simple tradition.
In fact, some are confusing this party with a bridal shower, even
calling it a "housewarming shower."
Regrettably, some homeowners register and expect expensive gifts from
their guests. Frankly, there is <i>no
such thing</i> as a housewarming shower.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: center; text-autospace: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A
housewarming shower has never been <i>a</i> <i>thing</i>.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Embarrassingly, when homeowners
act on this confusion, they may appear...well, less than socially savvy. Through the decades, guests to these types of
parties write to me about their disgust.
These comments are not positive.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: center; text-autospace: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Heed
my advice and avoid the label: socially inept.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Interestingly, this fad
began as a promotion by a few large store chains. Their premise focused on convincing their
customers to </span><a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/08/must-i-use-registry-to-give.html"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">register</span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> for
everything. And why not? This is good business, but poor manners. It's also unfair to guests, discourteous, and
illogical. We don't, or at least
shouldn't, create a gift-giving event for ourselves. If it were not so, we could host a birthday
party for ourselves each year, register, and expect gifts and cash. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Ground Hog's Day party
anyone?? I need a shovel. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-align: justify; text-autospace: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Host </span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/inviting-planning-and-sending-guests.html"><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Inviting, Planning, and
Sending Guests Out the Door</span></a><span style="color: #292929; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-8164619454682063212021-12-03T14:15:00.003-08:002021-12-03T14:15:47.057-08:00Holiday Gift Giving Without Looking Clueless<p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiebL9_6xReTd4_vPXrS6oqRgZyum7law4DBP10V1Bd9nToH5O_nETXesvjZskdVKKTbKIXrxcGeIh_jyucnyHEpPRWjBMvvAKvxBK41rfRjLELoPU9yK8iNpc1gyBfnpKQDqmDU4YTYF0/s1024/00408950.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="gift giving" border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="1024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiebL9_6xReTd4_vPXrS6oqRgZyum7law4DBP10V1Bd9nToH5O_nETXesvjZskdVKKTbKIXrxcGeIh_jyucnyHEpPRWjBMvvAKvxBK41rfRjLELoPU9yK8iNpc1gyBfnpKQDqmDU4YTYF0/w320-h320/00408950.jpg" title="gift giving" width="320" /></a><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Giving
gifts during the holidays can be tricky, expensive, and, at times, embarrassing
if we “regift” improperly. Follow along
as I cover what most have queried in the past.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Can Re-Gifting be Done Politely?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Of
course, but it must be done very carefully.
Here are the rules:</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
receiver shouldn’t know the original giver.
</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
gift must be in the original packaging and never used. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It
shouldn’t be a unique or a useless gift.
</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
original card should be removed. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It
should be something the giver is sure the receiver would want.</span></li></ul><p></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">General Gift-Giving Suggestions<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Often
givers feel obligated so often don’t give thoughtful </span><a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/housewarming-party-advice.html"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">gifts</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">. Also, many are confused and do not know who
they should give gifts to. So, we should
only give gifts to those whom we really want to give and consider the person as
we choose the gift. This also means that
we can and should keep our gift-giving list intimate.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
from the heart.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Something
you feel the recipient would like. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
only to those you wish to give. </span></li></ul><p></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Common Gift-Giving Questions<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q:</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> Do I
give to the parents of my son’s </span><a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/03/giftswhendating.html"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">girlfriend</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A:</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> Typically,
no. Give only if you are very close
friends. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q:
</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
my child has more than one teacher, do I give gifts to all? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A:</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> Give
only to those teachers your child has a good relationship with and wants to
give to. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q:
</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
I give to my housekeeper?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A:</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> This
is optional. If your housekeeper is the
same person every time and you feel she/he does an excellent job, then it is a
nice gesture to give. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q:</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> Are gift
cards appropriate to give? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A:</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> As
with other types of gifts, give the gift card the receiver would want. Know the receiver well. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Gift-Giving in the Workplace<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
(s)<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Be
aware of </span><a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/07/is-bottle-of-liquor-good-holiday-gift.html"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">company</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">
policy about gift-giving.<o:p></o:p></span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
thoughtful gifts.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
gender-safe gifts like certificates to bookstores, coffee shops, and
restaurants.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
homemade baked goods—this is usually safe. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Always
wrap gifts or present them in nice baskets or bags. The wrapping should be
appropriate and carefully chosen for each person. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
bright pink wrapping may not be appropriate for an older executive male. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
when others are not around. No one should feel left out. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Always
include a handwritten card.</span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
(s)<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
give personal gifts such as perfume, religious connotation, jewelry, or
clothing.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
give gifts to associates in front of others.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
give anything that you haven't put thought into because all gifts should be
thoughtful.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
give alcohol; wine may be an exception.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
give expensive gifts to the boss; it is viewed as 'apple polishing'.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not give logo-bearing gifts for the holidays—tacky.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
gag gifts!!</span></li></ul><p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Happy
holidays! Welcome to the season of heightened
and widely varying emotions and behaviors. Holidays should bring us closer, but distractions
often hinder our efforts. Brick and
mortar stores make it easier and easier to shop-till-you-drop by opening
earlier and earlier. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Now
the populous can push, shove, and sling never-ending profanities when they
should be enjoying their pumpkin pie with family. Alternately, there is always that kind person
paying it forward by purchasing a cup of coffee for the customer behind
him. The barrage of unkind and <a href="https://thepolitetraveler.blogspot.com/2019/12/vacation-etiquette-foreign-travel-tips.html">kind</a>
behaviors makes me a bit dizzy each year.
You too? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Wouldn't
it be wonderful if we had a set of holiday rules everyone is required to
read? It would be even better if we all
agreed to follow these rules. Better
yet, we all agree to use these rules going forward. Now that would make all my holiday dreams
come true. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We Are Not the Center of the Universe<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Surprise! It is not all about us. Assuming others feel
the need to give us gifts, invite us to their parties, or wish to please us is
presumptuous and illogical. Everyone has
his or her own life, needs, and problems.
We might not even be on his or her radar. Consider
this before hitting the send button; nix those email wish lists. In addition, never attend other’s events
without an invitation. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">An RSVP is Not Optional<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">An
invitation to an event is special; we should receive it as such. The host chose us. Therefore, if the host requests a response,
we should respond in a timely manner: RSVP ASAP.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">An Invitation is Not an Open Door<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Hosts
list those invited on the invitation or envelope. Just because we are invited, it is not polite
to assume that our children or significant other are as well. It is also impolite to ask to bring anyone
else, as it puts our hosts in a difficult position. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
you call to RSVP, thank your host first.
Then state that you would like to attend, but do not feel comfortable
leaving your significant other alone.
This might help you find out if an "and guest" is possible in
the politest manner. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Non-Parenting Parenting<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Not
all events are child-centric, even for our perfect little jewels. Allowing our
children to run about during a holiday event is not good parenting. Active parenting includes teaching children
to respect others and their property. To
achieve this, parents share expectations with their children before arrival and
ensure those expectations are met: no running, use in-door voices, and always use
good manners. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Gift Giving Gone Wild<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Not
everyone cares to exchange <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/birthday-party-advice-5.html">gifts</a>,
and, in some cases, it is best not to give one.
A gift could make the receiver feel awkward. In the workplace, it could be viewed as inappropriate,
such as giving an expensive gift to a boss, which could be viewed as
apple-polishing. So, first, consider if
giving a gift is appropriate.
Additionally, when giving a gift to someone for the first time, keep the
gift simple and inexpensive. Homemade <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/05/top-3-gluten-free-dessert.html">goodies</a>
or five-dollar coffeehouse gift cards are good examples. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Forgetting to be Thankful<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A
gift or invitation to a party is a generous gesture for which we should be
thankful. Therefore, we should remember
to write those old fashion little thank you notes. Yes, send snail mail, handwritten thank you
notes, even if your handwriting is less than desirable. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dressing Too Revealing or Too Casual<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">There
is nothing wrong with a little cleavage.
Actually, I’m a bit envious.
However, problems arise when it is obvious, copious, and on display
during the office holiday party or a family event. Our attire speaks before we do. For that reason, take special care in
choosing the correct attire for every occasion. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
most holiday events, especially office parties, attire should be conservative. That is not to suggest that attire should be
drab. Holidays are festive, so dress up
in your holiday finest. Just avoid nightclub
attire, shorts, jeans, or t-shirts.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How does it end?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Perhaps
following these rules will help us regain that holiday spirit often portrayed
in our favorite holiday movies. Start
with resolving to be kind to those pushing and shoving during holiday shopping. Finish with a festive gathering with loved
ones and all your holiday dreams just may come true. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
holidays arrive with a flurry of family events, the first of which is Thanksgiving. Many of us consider thankfulness, like being
thankful for the food on our plate and the good <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/02/women-sleep-needs.html">health</a>
of our family—especially during Covid. Definitely,
these are worthy of our thanks. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Create a Focus<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">But
in the realities of the day, we are probably also most thankful when the entire
family can sit down peaceably and behave in a cordial manner, which is a
stretch at times. Often when a bunch of
personalities sits at one table, even <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/03/how-to-deal-with-sticky-family-issues.html">family</a>,
at least one person says something to upset another. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It
may help for all of us to focus on what is important. It isn’t who baked the best pie or who gets
to sit next to grandpa. It is, in
essence, time and people. We are taking
the time to spend with those who matter most to us. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Now
that we have our focus, perhaps it is time to discuss some strategies and
rules. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Start with a Plan<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">While
typically the host is the person supplying the entire party, this isn’t always
the case with the family Thanksgiving gathering. Often these are shared events hosted at one
family member’s home. So, guests usually
bring a dish if one is requested.
Because of this, when we are invited, we should ask what we could
contribute. Participants should inquire
about food allergies or preferences that may be a concern. Of course, the host should provide a variety
of menu items for those with special diets.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When a Date is in the Mix<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
family holiday gatherings, it's fine to ask to bring a date, but do ask before adding
to the guest list. The date isn’t obligated
to bring a dish to share, but it is always best to bring a hostess-type gift,
such as a bottle of wine, flowers, candy, or something similar. This person should also dress
appropriately—conservatively and in good taste.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">In
fact, all guests should dress well and arrive on time, for it is respectful to
the host. Also, offer to share in preparations
and in the cleanup duties. After all,
this is basically a shared event. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dinner Time<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Brace
yourself, it’s time to sit down with the family, so beware and behave. Family members are the best at pushing each
other’s buttons, so avoid doing so. This
is not an appropriate forum for debates, settling old scores, or asking very
personal questions like “Hey, how’s that substance abusive program going?” <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I’ll Have the Cranberries With a Side of Vitriol<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
some family believes differently, abstain from discussing religion and politics. If a conflict arises, change the subject, and
point out that the day is about coming together, not falling apart. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Agreeing
to disagree is often an easy option as well.
And if asked an awkward question, brush it off and don’t take it personally. Take a page from politicians with the reply,
“No comment,” said with a smile. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Safety First<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">So,
what are safe topics? This is a time for
catching up on what each family member has been doing all year. This doesn’t mean that we drone on and on
about ourselves, but we do share what we have been doing and then ask others to
do the same. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We
ask children what they have been doing and what they want to be when they grow
up—is college an option? Cultural events and local news are both great options if
it has nothing to do with religion or politics.
Some families even play word games at the table. If it is all verbal… hey, why not. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">One
favorite verbal game played these days seems to be “If I won the lotto, what
would I do? Each person shares what they
would do; focusing on charitable works is best for teaching children what is
really important. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The Aftermath<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Stuffed,
tired, and in need of a nap, it is time to help clean up and consider when it
is time to leave. It is polite to ask
when the host wishes to end the evening when the invitation is offered. But often no one mentions it, so we are left
to determine when the party is over for ourselves. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
often, like most other <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/dinner-party-etiquette-in-four.html">dinner
parties</a>, it is after the dessert, coffee, and tea are served. Once this course has been consumed and if the
host doesn’t mention another activity, such as a game, it is time to pack it
up, of course, not before praising the host for his/her successful event. And don’t forget that handwritten thank you
notes! </span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 10pt; text-align: left;"> </span></p>
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family dynamic is changing ever faster and diversifying with multiple parental
figures, spouses, sets of grandparents, and stepsiblings to visit and host
during the holidays. Fold into this crazy mixture, different religions,
ethnicities, and political leanings and it may be difficult to get along and
enjoy this holiday season. Therefore, we
need a game plan. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Schedule and Separate<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
hosting, it is best to schedule different times for the divorced and never mention
the former spouse unless asked directly.
Separation is best. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Speaking
of separation, keep combatants as far apart as possible. State the rules upfront: no discussion of ...usual
button-pushing topics. Simply, rules
should include avoidance of politics or religion during family visits unless
everyone shares the same beliefs. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
those </span><a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/08/guests.pay.for.meals.html"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">guests</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">
visiting from out of town, reserve private time to visit—unless this isn't your
favorite person. If hosting the visiting
family person, try to have activities planned for him or her. Notify nearby family so they may pay their
respects. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As a Guest, Deflect<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dress
conservatively and in good taste. Dress
up a bit.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Offer
to assist with preparations and clean-up.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don’t
drone on about </span><a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/03/public-vs-private-profile-how-our.html"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">yourself</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> or
talk too much.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Arrive
and leave on time. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Avoid
discussing controversial topics or anything that could cause conflict.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
ask potentially embarrassing questions in front of others: "Did you find a
job yet?" "Are you dating yet
(to a teen)?" "How's that rehab going?"<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
tempers flare, smile and remind everyone about the focus of the
day—togetherness. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Agree
to disagree.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Suggested </span></b><a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/dinner-party-etiquette-in-four.html"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dinner</span></b></a><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> Conversation<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Activities
of the year.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Ask
children what they want to do when they grow up. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Cultural
events and local news are great options.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Play
verbal games. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Ask
everyone for what he or she is most grateful.
</span></li></ul><p></p>
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by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></a></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/how-to-avoid-holiday-etiquette-fail.html"><span color="windowtext" face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">How-To Avoid the Holiday-Etiquette Fail</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/holiday-dinner-party-etiquette-minding.html"><span color="windowtext" face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Holiday Dinner Party Etiquette: Minding Your Manners
During the Holidays</span></a><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-74270750738448743212021-09-28T14:51:00.005-07:002021-09-28T14:55:08.924-07:00 Evolving Party Etiquette and Party Hosts<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNCTIUAkk_PvOCrVSkwPM2CDeZQ7kX6Jak2lK2PM3pjm464keM1T-YoeS6u_GXcTsgsd2EGoDK9ioB7JcJlehYzG8PrBwyf9wK89LQ6UZYzQBX84yNqY80R3wx_6tI3-xJXKUQIl_42ZA/s2048/080403c0200.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="party; wine; women toasting" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1366" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNCTIUAkk_PvOCrVSkwPM2CDeZQ7kX6Jak2lK2PM3pjm464keM1T-YoeS6u_GXcTsgsd2EGoDK9ioB7JcJlehYzG8PrBwyf9wK89LQ6UZYzQBX84yNqY80R3wx_6tI3-xJXKUQIl_42ZA/w213-h320/080403c0200.jpg" title="Women toasting with wine" width="213" /></a></div>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How Party Etiquette Changed &
is Hosting Easier or Harder?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Polite One,</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How
has <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/09/gift-obligation-for-plus-one-birthday.html">party</a>
etiquette changed during the last decades?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What makes throwing parties easier or harder today?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What are the qualities of the best hosts
you’ve ever seen?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What about the worst? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Party
Person<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Party Person,<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
don’t really think <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/09/best.and.worst.parties.html">party</a>
etiquette has changed much except that we have more options.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is not just crate paper and balloons these
days.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Television, exposure to many other
cultures, and the Marthas of the world have opened our eyes to giving parties in
a variety of ways.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So, I believe hosting
parties is somewhat easier today because we can choose between a wide variety
of themes and still be considered fashionable, or etiquette (ly) correct. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
for hosts, the best hosts are those who behave as if they want to spend time
with every guest in attendance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They
plan well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They provide adequate food
and beverages, remember guest’s preferences, and create a welcoming atmosphere.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The worst hosts are those who expect the
guest to provide their own sustenance, expect a <a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/09/wedding.registry.advice.html">gift</a>,
and do not spend time with each guest.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
sincerely,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a name="_Hlk82524351"></a><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/coffee-house-etiquette-or-want-with.html"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"><span color="windowtext" face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Coffee House Etiquette or Want a @#&% With That Latte?
</span></span></a><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span color="windowtext" face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"></span><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"><span color="windowtext" face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo </span></span></a><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span color="windowtext" face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"></span><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/restaurant.etiquette.html"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"><span color="windowtext" face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Take Your Best Manners With You When Visiting a Restaurant</span></span></a><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82524351;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-85205767078426090152021-09-23T14:10:00.003-07:002021-09-23T14:10:48.268-07:00Etiquette 101: How-to Tone Down Gift Expectations and Why<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiebL9_6xReTd4_vPXrS6oqRgZyum7law4DBP10V1Bd9nToH5O_nETXesvjZskdVKKTbKIXrxcGeIh_jyucnyHEpPRWjBMvvAKvxBK41rfRjLELoPU9yK8iNpc1gyBfnpKQDqmDU4YTYF0/s1024/00408950.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="gift bag; gifts; credit card" border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="1024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiebL9_6xReTd4_vPXrS6oqRgZyum7law4DBP10V1Bd9nToH5O_nETXesvjZskdVKKTbKIXrxcGeIh_jyucnyHEpPRWjBMvvAKvxBK41rfRjLELoPU9yK8iNpc1gyBfnpKQDqmDU4YTYF0/w320-h320/00408950.jpg" title="Credit card paying for a gift in a bag" width="320" /></a></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Exploring the Gift Mania Craze<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How
and when did this happen?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It seems that suddenly,
the masses consider most any occasion a gift-giving situation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Taking it a greedy step further, the gift-crazed
often create personalized gift-giving events.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Even worse, these gift-miners inform their dollar-poor guests what gifts
they prefer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To that, I must say,
“Yikes!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Some
etiquette rules evolved due to this phenomenon.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Whereas in the past, it was inappropriate to mention ‘no <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/housewarming-party-advice.html">gifts</a>
please’ in birthday, graduation, vow renewal, and anniversary party invitations,
now we can. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was inevitable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After all, when so many feel entitled to a
gift, we need a little guidance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Let
us try to remember the basics.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Gifts
should be given from the heart and because we want to give.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most importantly, we should never expect one
for any occasion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Here is a bit of Q
& A to help get us back on the proper etiquette road.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Graduation Party Gifts Requested<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">My
daughter is graduating from high school. She has no college plans, as she
prefers to work at her current job.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On
her graduation party invitation, how do I inform guests that she prefers to
have cash gifts? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Does the fact that she
is not attending college make any difference in what type of gifts she
receives?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I am
sorry, but it is not appropriate to request gifts, especially cash. Can
you imagine receiving an invitation for a graduation and reading that you are
expected to bring your wallet? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A
graduation party is not necessarily a gift-giving event. The graduate or
her /his family hosts the party to celebrate an academic accomplishment. Focusing
on gifts implies that the receipt of gifts is most important.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Instead,
use this as a teachable moment. This is the perfect time for her to learn
that gifts are not the focus of human interaction. Sharing time with our
loved ones is most important. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">But I <i>Want</i> That Housewarming Party Gift!<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
is the proper way to ask for a housewarming <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/how-can-we-host-gift-less-housewarming.html">gift</a>? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">This
would not be polite. In fact, a housewarming party is not a gift-giving
event per se.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Gifts are typically
insignificant and inexpensive, like candles, a coffee table book, a bottle of wine,
or a card. Avoid hinting as well, since it is viewed as whining or
begging.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Second
Question from “Wants Housewarming Gifts”<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">So on
the invitation, is it proper to say, "If you would like to give me
something, gift cards are greatly appreciated"?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is it proper to indicate the colors I use in
my house?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Sorry,
but no. It is never appropriate to request gifts. Requesting cash
or gift cards is even worse. You are hosting a party for yourself, so it appears
as if you are only inviting people to your home to receive gifts. This is
not polite.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Mentioning your decor is
hinting and therefore impolite as well.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A
housewarming is <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">supposed</i> to be a
party, or gathering, to warm your home with the love of your family and friends,
and to get to know your new neighbors. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Adult
Wants Cash for B’Day Party & a Wishing Well<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How do
I ask for money as gifts on the invitations to my birthday day? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There will be a Wishing Well also, how do I list
this?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Please
do not do this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is inappropriate and
impolite to ask for money, especially for an adult birthday party.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Moreover, people view wishing wells for any type
of event as gauche.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
only type of gift request mentioned on <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/09/gift-obligation-for-plus-one-birthday.html">birthday</a>
invitations would be to request none.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The number one rule for hosting a party is that a guest should never
have to reach into his wallet.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Holiday-Etiquette Fail</span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/holiday-dinner-party-etiquette-minding.html"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Holiday Dinner Party
Etiquette: Minding Your Manners During the Holidays </span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/proper-etiquette-when-giving-receiving.html"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Proper Etiquette
When Giving & Receiving Gifts </span></a><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-91171769650467336532021-09-20T14:53:00.006-07:002021-09-20T14:53:39.076-07:00How to Dress for Your Special Occasion<p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgO3bNfdKQcRf2s9c7tVFk6cQUx8FEmCrfZ4T0KPSykjGAZD9fomswcNLT4A_80tg5WtBtovMQE32CDEF2Mh0I2j7NdPcsnLD6MH9auuFRUdAhUqeXuLFeZwISqDRnwNw4MSgdAYrv1Zbo/s2048/070118i0939.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="suit and tie" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1366" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgO3bNfdKQcRf2s9c7tVFk6cQUx8FEmCrfZ4T0KPSykjGAZD9fomswcNLT4A_80tg5WtBtovMQE32CDEF2Mh0I2j7NdPcsnLD6MH9auuFRUdAhUqeXuLFeZwISqDRnwNw4MSgdAYrv1Zbo/w213-h320/070118i0939.jpg" title="Suit and tie" width="213" /></a><br /></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt;"><b>Proper Attire Etiquette Advice Q & A</b></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
questions I receive, as an etiquette professional, concern attire choice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Many are about what to wear to a wedding,
especially for the mothers of the bride and groom.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Occasionally, questions are unique, like,
"What to wear for a movie premiere".<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>From the flood of questions I receive about
attire, it seems likely that you might have your own.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What follows are a few of my favorites.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hopefully, your question will be answered
here.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What is proper attire anyway?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
is the definition of proper <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/how-do-i-inform-guests-of-attire-gift.html">attire</a>?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Proper
attire is the expected clothing choice for places we share with others:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>the public forum, function, or
situation. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What is cocktail attire?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">T</span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">he invitation states "cocktail
attire" for the August evening wine and cheese engagement party for my son
and his fiancée.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are 100+ guests
invited to this Louisiana party.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
likely people will flow outside the home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Would a tab collar, starched white shirt, and no tie under a dark
suit jacket be proper for a man? Since it will be hot, is it appropriate to
take off the jacket?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And is it
appropriate to leave the shirt untucked beneath the jacket, as men's styles are
now showing?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/09/what-makes-for-great-california-wine.html">Cocktail</a>
attire is a suit for men and the little black dress or its equivalent for
women. Men may be a tad adventurous with their attire, but the shirt
should be tucked in. An untucked shirt is eye candy for photoshoots and
actors. If the suit is of high quality, the tie could be optional.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, it is part of the
costume. Removing the jacket may be fine when outdoors. Just watch
what other guests are doing. Typically, men suffer in silence with
jackets securely in place. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">LA Red-Carpet Movie Attire<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I'm a
male actor in a movie premiering next week—red carpet and all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don't have a clue what to wear! The LA
premiere is at 6 pm; the actors and director are not well known. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Genre is romance. Help! <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dress
codes for these events are difficult to navigate, even if we know the
particulars – venue, time of day, and actors involved. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The safe choice is a tuxedo.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Since this is LA (quirky, fun), you could be
daring with a tie and shirt; skipping the tie entirely is fine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Alter your attire based on how well the
premiere is publicized.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This might be
one of your best gauges for how formal the event may be.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Sexy attire for hubby’s medical residency graduation?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">My
husband will be graduating from a medical residency for a specialty in anesthesiology
soon. The event is in late June in the evening. My choice of attire is a knee-length
cotton/Lycra® sundress in a tulip print, hot-pink trim, and hot pink small bows
on the thin hot pink straps and a back pleat. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am a size 6, D-cup with a thin waist.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My husband falls out of his chair when I put
it on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What is your opinion?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It may
be best to nix the <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/03/flirteffectively.html">sexy</a>
attire since this graduation will, most likely, be a conservative affair.
After all, the focus should on your husband as the professional, the
doctor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Guests and other graduates
should be looking at him and not your D-cup.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
safest choice is the little black dress or its equivalent.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pair it with a jacket or wrap, and please
watch the cleavage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Wow!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is formal.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Q: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">My
husband and I are planning to go to an evening black-tie charity dinner this
week. It is fall/winter here in Australia. My husband will probably wear a
black suit, white shirt, with red silk tie and vest. I am not sure what to wear.
Shoes?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A: </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Black
tie equals tuxedos for men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A formal
evening dress, long or short depending on the event, is best for women.
Usually, charity events are more formal, so long seems more appropriate. Choose
a color that compliments your complexion, but is not too bright—no red. Pairing
your dress with a shawl might be a good choice if the weather is cooler.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Your
shoes should match your outfit and can be open or closed-toe. If you
choose open-toed, do not wear nylons, as it is viewed as a fashion faux pas.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Etiquette for Today's Woman?<u1:p></u1:p></span></span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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Note </span></a><b><o:p></o:p></b></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-37610591185790956792021-09-19T11:53:00.002-07:002021-09-19T11:53:56.653-07:004 Issues of Proper Address: Envelope Etiquette<p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYOyyRwaJ4ts2hqXf9NV_kBxw2DuHXyyTSMkSXWZ8woPql0-9jOTWXmrYY9IRLYcvNTjO_DJR0UUjyrqvLSzQs1gKgYSipemhelihalVovpGQ_AYs2FZcAWU-mKstY2yyo2oikBuRV5cw/s951/10216312.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="envelope" border="0" data-original-height="600" data-original-width="951" height="202" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYOyyRwaJ4ts2hqXf9NV_kBxw2DuHXyyTSMkSXWZ8woPql0-9jOTWXmrYY9IRLYcvNTjO_DJR0UUjyrqvLSzQs1gKgYSipemhelihalVovpGQ_AYs2FZcAWU-mKstY2yyo2oikBuRV5cw/w320-h202/10216312.png" title="Envelope" width="320" /></a></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">There
are so many possible variables when it comes to properly addressing an
envelope, card, or letter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is
especially true today with domestic partners and with ‘Ms.’ as a common option
for women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Our
confusion, especially for older people, is easy to understand when we take into
consideration that traditionally widowed women would use the title ‘Mrs. husband’s
first name’ instead of her first name.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Today,
however, in many locations <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/03/historyelizabethcoleman.html">women</a>
never use their husband’s first name.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>So, what is proper these days in the world of correspondence?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Addressing a Woman Who Uses Two Last Names on an Envelope<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Polite One</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How
do I address a <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/05/follow-these-steps-to-get-job-you-want.html">business</a>/social
gathering invitation to a female associate who uses both her maiden and married
name? For example: if they are Denise Dailey-Markham and Dale
is the husband?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Too
Many Names<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Too Many Names, <o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">You
could list her name on the first line with his underneath. We use this
form for business letters quite often. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Example<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Denise
Dailey-Markham<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dale
Markham<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
sincerely,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How to Address the Envelope to a Couple?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Polite One</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
is the correct style when you invite a couple for a function?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">1)
Do you address the invitation card as Mr. & Mrs. J. H. Smith. Or,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">2)
Mrs. & Mr. J. H. Smith<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Visitor <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Visitor,<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It
is Mr. and Mr. J.H. Smith. However, if you use first names, it would be
written: Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Smith or Jane and John Smith. A man
is never separated from his last name.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This
is a very silly old <a href="https://thepolitetraveler.blogspot.com/2019/12/france-french-and-manners.html">rule</a>
that many still follow.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
sincerely,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Is the Address Right Adjusted or Centered?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Polite One</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">On
the outer envelope, I’ve had conflicting advice on how to position the
address. Should the lines be horizontally centered as staggered, or
left-justified, so the start of every line is in the same position? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Outer
Envelope Confusion<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Outer Envelope Confusion,<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Centered
is formal, but this is the form we use for the invitation—the inner <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/is-it-proper-to-send-graduation.html">envelope</a>.
Because we must address these for the post office as well as for the guest,
left-justify these. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
sincerely,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When to Use ‘Master’ On an Invitation for a Boy?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Polite One</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">At
what age do you stop using Master and use Mr. on invitations to young males?
My daughter is in a debutante program and will be sending out party invitations
to the escorts who are 17 and 18 years old. Do we use Master or Mr.?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Mastering
Invitations<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dear
Mastering Invitations,<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
can see the use of ‘Master’ will disappear soon, as this title has a
negative connotation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For now, here is a
list of how to use titles for children:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Boys
under the age of
7
Master John
Smith
Dear John,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Boys
7-18
John
Smith
Dear John,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Man
18 or
over
Mr. John Smith
Dear Mr. John
Smith,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
sincerely,<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Sharing Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites</span></a></span><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-color-alt: windowtext;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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Etiquette or Want a @#&% With That Latte? </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Use Your Best
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">As
an etiquette teacher, I'm often amazed at some of the odd behaviors I witness
in grocery stores. I'm not alone.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">Ask
around and you will probably get an ear full about the clueless and impolite. Unfortunately,
poor public behavior bordering on downright rude appears to be on the
rise.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">These poor <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/03/how-to-deal-with-sticky-family-issues.html">behaviors</a> resulted in
an </span><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0S4YiApsGIw&feature=c4-overview&list=UUBlGRxmBUsv3pc7EhmBtTGg" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">interview</a><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">
with me on a local network a few years ago. Since there's obviously interest,
I've created a short tutorial on grocery store etiquette.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
is proper aisle etiquette?</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Whether
it's hogging the entire aisle while searching for an item or chatting with
another, we should realize that we share this space. Be aware of where your cart is and that it is
not obstructing others' progress. Step
to the side as others approach when in a conversation. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Everything
we do affects others. Therefore, we
should all strive to affect others in a positive manner and never emulate the
entitled "me first" persona. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Furthermore,
assist others when the opportunity arises.
Frequently, we are in such a rush that we miss the subtleties. We may not notice the elderly four-foot woman
unsuccessfully reaching for an item on the top shelf. It would take a mere 10 seconds to assist
her. Courtesy and kindness are free, it
is polite behavior, and it is the right thing to do. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
is proper behavior for children in grocery stores?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2020/12/aging-well-in-our-60s.html">Older</a>
people tend to use the phrase, "When I was a child..." quite
often. Well, in this case, it's
appropriate. In the past, it seemed that
parents and children realized that a store is not a playground. Children just seemed to know that it is
impolite to run through the aisles.
Parents knew that touching items we don't intend to purchase isn't
polite. This isn't as common in our
non-parenting parent world today.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As parents, it is our job to set the rules.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Children
shouldn't run through the store, because they could hurt other shoppers,
especially the infirm. Please don't
allow children to touch unwrapped bakery items without your supervision; using paper is best. In addition, reinforce
the use of indoor voices. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What about
a person with 25 grocery items in the 15-or-fewer-line?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">There
are no etiquette police to correct others' behavior. It's not polite to do so. If a person isn't following the rules, we
should ignore them. Let's just make sure
we are not <i>that person</i>.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What is proper etiquette when perusing the freezer aisle?</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
ease of searching, freezer doors are made of glass. Thus, we only need to open the door once our
choice is made. Even though this is a simple
and logical premise, we may forget this concept when we reach the ice cream
section. Perhaps it's that carton of double
chocolate fudge causing brain freeze. In
any case, the socially savvy remembers that a grocery store is a shared space—one
that is not ours. We are not at home; this is not our property. Respectfully,
we should not hold freezer doors open allowing warm air to enter. If so, it could result in spoiled goods. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What to
do when faced with inconsiderate, social blunders at the grocery store?</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Since
it is impolite to correct others' behaviors, it is best to lead by example. Politely ask others to allow passage when they
are blocking an aisle. Assist others
when needed. Practice active <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2017/06/educationalsuccessdavis.html">parenting</a>. Be
polite, be respectful of others and property.
Be the <a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/best-guest-etiquette.html"><i><span style="color: windowtext; text-decoration-line: none;">best guest</span></i></a>. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Your thoughts?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a name="_Hlk82507051"></a><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo </span></a><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/restaurant.etiquette.html"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Take Your Best Manners With You When Visiting a Restaurant</span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/how-to-politely-refuse-handshake.html"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">How to Politely Refuse a Handshake</span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-20134804879962164612021-09-14T10:34:00.005-07:002021-09-14T10:34:29.569-07:00How to Politely Refuse a Handshake<p style="text-align: center;"> <iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/w1ImNIa822Q" width="320" youtube-src-id="w1ImNIa822Q"></iframe></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">In
our culture, shaking hands is a validation, a statement of trust. Just
consider these statements: “Sealed with a firm handshake.” “He met me with a
smile and a firm handshake.” It is like a seal of commitment, like a
contract to be honest and good. Of course, this really is no guarantee of
behavior. Nevertheless, we do tend to trust those who smile, make good
eye contact, and shake our hands. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Considering
this, what do we do when we honestly do not want to shake hands with others?
The reasons are many, some grounded in science—especially with viruses like
Covid—and fact, and some grounded in our own compulsions. But all reasons
are valid for us. Taking our reasoning into the mix, does this make our
refusal of the handshake any less insulting? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Is The Refusal of a Handshake Insulting?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">In
the past, it was insulting to refuse a handshake because it is an intimate
act. Yes, intimate. Because trust is involved, the <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2020/12/business-etiquette-interview-business.html">handshake</a>
is very intimate. We are giving of ourselves, and it is accepted by the
handshake. With our shoulder dipping slightly as we shake hands, we move
forward toward the other person. This gesture is intimate and open.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Knowing
this, a refusal of an out-reached hand could be interpreted as a refusal of the
person. The interpretation could be that the person is too dirty, not
good enough, or just plain lower class. Ouch. That hurts. Of
course, the person who refuses the handshake could also be viewed as socially
inept, as if the person doesn’t know how to conduct him or herself politely in
public. Either way, this is a touchy situation. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Since
a refusal can be viewed so <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/how-to-deal-with-abusive-family-members.html">negatively</a>,
we should approach this situation as we do when we interact with
others. We consider other’s feelings and comfort levels. In addition,
we consider how our actions will affect them. Having done this and we
know how our refusal could be interpreted, we tread lightly. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What About The Deadly Virus?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Yet,
today with our knowledge of how viruses are spread, we are becoming accustomed
to the fist and elbow bump as a valid substitution. If choosing one of these options, offer your fist
or elbow while smiling—even if wearing a mask—and lightly bump the fist or elbow
of your counterpart. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Politely Keeping Our Hands in Our Pockets<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Alternately,
we might wish to skip all personal contact. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
Handshakes<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">“I’m
sorry, but my allergies have kept my handkerchief busy today. I don’t
want to give you any of my germs.” (smile) or “I feel a cold coming on. I
really don’t want to share that.” (smile) <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Both
statements explain that the refusal is based on our problem, not one we have
with the other person. It is always best to refuse in this manner—it is
our problem, not theirs. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">“I
know it is somewhat strange, but I’m not comfortable sharing other’s hands.”
(smile)<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">“I
was just handling <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/03/first-person-how-i-get-my-budget-under.html">money</a>.
You know how dirty that is.” (smile) <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">These
are honest replies that are most often viewed very positively. When
offering these excuses, you appear to trust that this person will not judge you
unfairly. We tend to trust others who appear to trust us. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
Fist and Elbow Bumps<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">“I’m
still unaccustomed to this form of greeting.
Please accept my apologies.” (smile) <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Please
share your suggestions!<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span style="color: windowtext; text-decoration-line: none;">Use Your Best
Manners When Visiting the Zoo </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/restaurant.etiquette.html"><span style="color: windowtext; text-decoration-line: none;">Take Your
Best Manners With You When Visiting a Restaurant</span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/pageants-and-young-ladies-why-become.html"><span style="color: windowtext; text-decoration-line: none;">Pageants and
Young Ladies: Why Become a Pageant Judge? </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-89471293616431913202021-09-14T10:03:00.004-07:002021-09-14T10:12:47.115-07:00Take Your Best Manners With You When Visiting a Restaurant<p style="text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/nCPoU-eK9hE" width="320" youtube-src-id="nCPoU-eK9hE"></iframe></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
visiting a restaurant, take your manners with you. Please remember, in all cases, you are
visiting and are a guest, as the restaurant is someone else’s property, so we
respect it and all who are there. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Take
your <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/03/4-most-asked-prom-etiquette-questions.html">manners</a>.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dress
appropriately for the formality of the venue.
</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Dress
conservatively. Too much cleavage can be
distracting. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Use
your <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/two-who-know-how-to-parent.html">parenting</a>
skills and mind the little ones.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Use
indoor voices.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Turn
the cell phone off.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Remove
the earbud from your ear; no one will beam you up anyway.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Treat
wait-staff politely.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Ask
about unusual ingredients and how the dish is prepared—fewer returned
dishes. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Wait
until everyone has received their <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/05/summer-garden-diet.html">meals</a>
before beginning to eat.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Leave
a tip of 15% to 25% of the pre-tax bill.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Privately
communicate if there is a problem with the meal, service, or venue. The restaurant owner usually wants to know of
any problems. </span></li></ul><p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don’t <o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Be
late! Be on time for reservations.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Wear
hats at the table. Ladies may wear small designer hats.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Clean
utensils or anything on the table with your napkin.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Blow
your nose at the table.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Talk
loudly or use cell phones.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Allow
children to wander.</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Demand
to return wine just because you don’t like it.
Return it if it has been corked, is the wrong wine, or is super cooked
and tastes like bad Sherry. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Use
toothpicks or pick your teeth at the table.
</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Put
on makeup at the table. </span></li></ul><p></p>
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by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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</span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><a name="_Hlk82418144"></a><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/beware-sharing-too-much-hurting-others.html"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Beware Sharing Too Much
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo </span></a><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-45006521226268070272021-09-13T14:17:00.004-07:002021-09-13T14:17:32.775-07:00Pageants and Young Ladies: Why Become a Pageant Judge?<p style="text-align: center;"> <iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/08waYGDhnJI" width="320" youtube-src-id="08waYGDhnJI"></iframe></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">NAMISS Contestants</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Typically,
I would offer <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/dinner-party-advice-3.html">etiquette</a>
advice here or some sort of story related to the concept of civility.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not this time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I'm shaking it up a bit based on a very
recent experience, one I was surprised that I enjoyed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">My
partner and I were asked to judge the Miss CA Teen pageant (Northern
California) for National American Miss.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My
first thought was to politely decline.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Images of "Little Miss Sunshine" danced in my head and the
very thought of makeup on a little girl turned my tummy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What is This Pageant About Anyway?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Thankfully,
I didn't reply immediately and instead did a little research.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>NAMISS doesn't allow makeup on younger ladies
and only allows a touch on older teens. Refreshing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Inner beauty and future goals are a
focus.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Now I was intrigued.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But what type of young <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/02/lonelywomanadvice.html">lady</a>
and more importantly what type of parent would encourage participation?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is important to me and became a deciding
point.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
I found is that young people and their parents consider this pageant and
preparing for it a stepping-stone in their child's future. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Case in point, scoring is based on communication
and presentation skills, and poise.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
teach these skills – the same skills employers value – which ultimately draws
many parents and contestants.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Surprisingly,
I became a convert and accepted this honor.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Judging is Hard Work!<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Judging
is actually a difficult task.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These
young ladies prepare for months, some for years, for this and other
pageants.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They possess communications
skills, as a teacher, I applaud, and all appeared kind, considerate, and
focused on their future goals.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">These
young ladies are also dedicated to serving their community, including volunteering.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To judge them while knowing how hard they
work, was incredibly difficult indeed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>But judge we did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Moreover, we
are both glad we accepted the honor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We
found that judging is a huge part of helping contestants become the person they
strive to be.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To that end, we offered helpful
comments on our judging sheets.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That
doesn't compare, not even close, to what they have had to do to get to where
they are now; but it was all we could offer in the short period we shared with
them.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">May I Keep Them?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
usual, I feel so attached to all of them as I usually do with my students and
clients.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I admire their strength and
focus.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I know many of them will become
future leaders, doctors, and some will simply become actors.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In addition, all have grown through the
process, including us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A Little Advice to Parents<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Since
I'm an etiquette teacher, you knew there'd be an etiquette reference
included...right??<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So, what advice do I
offer the parents of the young ladies?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Well,
you know how hard your daughters have worked to get here.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You know how determined they all are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You know how focused they are on how to
present themselves in a positive manner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>But do you realize how you are being perceived?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yes, you are not being judged.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Still, we do notice, everyone does.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">This
situation isn't much different from when a person accompanies his/her spouse to
a business function.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The spouse's <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/03/public-vs-private-profile-how-our.html">behavior</a>
and attire are noticed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Now, I doubt any
of us, especially the team from Etiquette Now, would judge a young lady harshly
due to her parents' behavior or attire.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We
definitely didn't.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We didn't even try
matching parents to contestants; we had our virtual blinders on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But others might.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So, be very careful as you go forward during
pageant season.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Try to be a <i>matching
set</i> considering how socially savvy and neat in appearance you are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Note<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
have since retired from our business, Etiquette Now! and no longer teach.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Every day was precious during those days, as
helping others feel confident and valued changed my life for the better.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hugs to my former clients.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will never forget you. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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from The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><a name="_Hlk82418144"></a></span><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/beware-sharing-too-much-hurting-others.html"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><span color="windowtext" style="text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418144;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;"><span style="text-decoration-line: none;">Beware Sharing
Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites</span></span></span></span></span><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418144;"></span></span></a><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418144;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span></span></span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418144;"><span face=""Lato",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 15pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%;"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"></span><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo </span></span></a><span style="mso-bookmark: _Hlk82418070;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-44638028063216227082021-09-13T12:32:00.001-07:002021-09-13T12:32:14.199-07:00Political Etiquette For all Situations<p style="text-align: center;"> <iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/wNKeMe5QjCY" width="320" youtube-src-id="wNKeMe5QjCY"></iframe></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Discussing
politics is a potentially divisive subject.
So great care should be taken to choose the right place and the right
audience for our discussions. And since we
are in a never-ending season of mega-politics, it is best to discuss some <a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/08/guests.pay.for.meals.html">etiquette</a>
to consider. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Consider the right forum before beginning the conversation<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don’t
forget your basic manners </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Respect</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Consideration</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Courtesy</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
interrupting</span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Listen to other’s opinions</span></li></ul><p></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Work and Politics Don’t Mix<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We
can create an “us against them” atmosphere when discussing politics at <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/03/the-importance-of-protecting-your-brand.html">work</a>. Plus, it could change our working
relationships when our workmates discover we are one of “them.” <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
doubt any of us wants to hear, “Oh my, she is a bleeding-heart liberal or right-wing
conservative” as we pass our workmates. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Social settings are often not ideal for political
discussions<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Even
at a seemingly pleasant <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/dinner-party-etiquette-in-four.html">dinner
party</a>, we could create an “Us against them” atmosphere, which isn’t polite
or fair. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Elicit political preferences privately and with great care<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Consider
that if you ask, you will receive an answer you might not be prepared to
hear. Be fair and listen if you two
disagree politically. It is also polite
to agree to disagree. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Choose to stay mum<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 12pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It
is a choice. We can decide to decline or
change the subject. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites</span></span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"><span face=""Lato",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 15pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo</span></a></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-26615176138496598262021-09-13T11:57:00.004-07:002021-09-13T12:05:23.499-07:00Don’t Fly a U.S. Flag Before Learning the Etiquette Involved<p style="text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_X3bdjkpCKNYCJ1Bpn_wz25SVMm1O28pMmWkMqZThm9kWiheUT5bMmUGcgvkG6ZTMYeLilPcurRpMBsHBvXWoG4ZDWaJhRi-t23HZuOkvhrhrqk62R4yIak3BUCTET-EakHJ-NSo3TZ4/s1200/1200px-Flag_of_the_United_States.svg.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="American flag" border="0" data-original-height="632" data-original-width="1200" height="169" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_X3bdjkpCKNYCJ1Bpn_wz25SVMm1O28pMmWkMqZThm9kWiheUT5bMmUGcgvkG6ZTMYeLilPcurRpMBsHBvXWoG4ZDWaJhRi-t23HZuOkvhrhrqk62R4yIak3BUCTET-EakHJ-NSo3TZ4/w320-h169/1200px-Flag_of_the_United_States.svg.png" title="American flag; public domain" width="320" /></a> </div><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">All
funerals are an emotional experience filled with some sort of protocol. However, those participating in a military
funeral practice and perform every movement with precision. Every fold
of our flag, every movement, and every gesture is carefully executed. Witnessing all the intricate protocol at the
recent funeral of a relative piqued my interest to study flag etiquette. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
I want to learn as much as I possibly can, I go to the source for my research.
In this case, I read as many government sources as I could find and discussed
the subject with <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/04/black-history-general-davis.html">military</a>
members responsible for performing flag rituals. What follows is what I
learned. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Mourning<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
stated by presidential or gubernatorial order, an <i>official</i> mourning
period is typically reserved for designated government leaders. Although the flag is flown at half-staff, it
is raised to the top of the staff for an instant, lowered to the
halfway position, and then again raised to the top for a moment
before it is lowered. It is quite
dramatic. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="http://www.gettysburgflag.com/memorial-day-flag-etiquette">Gettysburg</a>
Flag Works states that for "Memorial Day the flag is displayed at half-staff
until noon and at full staff from noon to sunset." <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
covering a coffin, it is placed with the union (the starfield) at the head and
over the left shoulder and never lowered in the grave.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
(s)<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
a greeting gesture we often nod our head to a person on the street. Conversely, this is considered <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/how-to-handle-impolite-friends.html">impolite</a>
with a flag; never tip our flag toward a person or thing. There are
specific rules about what we do not do to our nation's symbol.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
fly the flag upside down. This is a
distress signal. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
use the flag for decoration or advertising purposes. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
use the flag as decoration on items intended for commercial use. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
use the image as part of a costume. Exceptions: military, police, fire, or
patriotic uniform. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
attach a sign, mark, insignia, letter, word, number, figure, etc. to a
flagpole, or flag. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Don't
use it to carry anything. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The Treatment of Our Flag<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We
treat our flag with tremendous respect and delicately, as if it is special.
Two people raise and lower it quickly with great ceremony while never allowing
it to touch the ground or anything else. When lowering it, one person
gathers the flag as one lowers it. Then both fold and store it
neatly. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
the flag becomes frayed and beyond appropriateness, it is retired gracefully
and is burned in a "dignified manner". It is most appropriate to find designated
agencies to perform this duty. Until that point, it is to be kept clean and
mended. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Display of Respect Expected from Nonmilitary Civilians<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Hand
over our heart for nonmilitary, we salute our flag as it is raised and
lowered. Civilian men should remove
their hats. And if pledging allegiance,
we stand at attention, face the flag with our hand over our heart while
reciting the verses. If the national anthem is played, civilians stand
with the right hand over heart until the song is finished. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Rules for Flying the Flag Outside<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Displayed
from a window, balcony, or building: <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
starfield is at the top of the staff unless the flag is at
half-staff. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Displayed
with another flag: <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
on the same flagpole, the US flag is at the top. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
other flag may be larger. </span></li><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
other flag may be above it.</span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
on a different flagpole, the US flag is on its right. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The US
flag is first up and last down. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Flags
of other countries should be on separate poles and should be the same
size. All the flags should be raised and lowered at the same time and
should be the same height. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Fly
the flag vertically when displayed over a street (starfield positioned north
or east).<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
canton is farthest from the building when it is flown over a sidewalk. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not fly after sunset unless it is illuminated. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Indoors?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Place
the US flag on the right, always in the place of honor. Say there is a
speaker at a function, the flag would be placed on the speaker's right. All
other flags are placed to the left. When there are a group of flags, the <a href="https://thepolitetraveler.blogspot.com/2019/09/activity-review-wandering-portland.html">US</a>
flag is placed in the center, higher than the others. Yet, when our
flag's staff is crossed with the flag of another, the US flag's
staff is in front with the flag on its own right. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">There
are times that we would want to display the US flag against a wall. It
doesn't matter if it is displayed vertically or horizontally, the starfield
would be at the top, to its own right, and to the observer’s left. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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</span></span></a><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
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Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites</span></span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"><span face=""Lato",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 15pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/use-your-best-manners-when-visiting-zoo.html"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;">Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo</span></a><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; text-align: justify;"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span>Photo credit</span></span><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;">: </span><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Flag_of_the_United_States.svg"><span>File:Flag of the United States.svg - Wikipedia</span></a><span style="text-align: justify;"> public domain</span><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="text-align: justify;"> </span></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-67158510348313579242021-09-13T09:45:00.000-07:002021-09-13T11:57:28.262-07:00Use Your Best Manners When Visiting the Zoo<p style="text-align: center;"> <iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/7-M2leCoH0U" width="320" youtube-src-id="7-M2leCoH0U"></iframe><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">According
to government studies of school shootings, including an impressive <a href="https://www2.ed.gov/admins/lead/safety/threatassessmentguide.pdf">document</a>
from the Department of Education, bullying can cause anger and thus has caused
those bullied to strike out and shoot their fellow students. Bullying includes name-calling, taunts, and
physical contact. Many school shooters
claimed they had been treated badly and simply wanted payback. <span class="msoIns"><ins cite="mailto:Rebecca%20Black" datetime="2008-01-02T11:33"><o:p></o:p></ins></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Reflecting
on this, could human behavior or bullying, have played a part in the <a href="http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/S-F-Zoo-visitor-saw-2-victims-of-tiger-attack-3233323.php" target="_blank">tiger mauling</a> a few years ago? This is not to say that we should blame the
victim, which is, in my opinion, a travesty.
But there are more than human victims here aren’t there. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
it stands, we do not know for sure, as several sources state, that the boys who
survived the tiger mauling bullied and taunted her and may have instigated the
attack. Whether they did or didn’t
doesn’t bring the young man or the tiger back to us. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">But
just the idea that they could have, necessitates a discussion on what should be
appropriate shared space or public behavior. This is especially important to demonstrate
when visiting someone else’s <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/who-hosts-housewarming-party-advice.html">home</a>,
which is exactly what a zoo is; it is home to zoo animals, and we are only
visitors. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Please
read on for the rules.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Adults with Children<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not leave children unattended and always watch them.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Children
should not be encouraged or allowed to climb exhibit railings or fences, touch,
or feed animals.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
escorting a group of children, call before your visit to inquire about the
recommended ratio of adults to <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/birthday-giftless.html">children</a>. Typically, it is 5 children per adult. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Select
a place to meet in case a child is separated from the group.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Children<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Stay
with your group; do not run or create excessive noise. Animals can scare easily, so this type of
behavior could be very unsettling for them.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not throw any type of object anywhere inside the zoo. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
zoos object to skateboards, bikes, and skates.
Even if your zoo allows them, it is best to leave them at home. We do not skate or bike in someone’s home. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">All Guests<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Follow
all rules mentioned above.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not pick <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/search/label/Gardening">flowers</a>
or climb trees.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not feed the animals. Animals are on a
specialized diet and could become sick if fed something not on their diet.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
animals are roaming around the grounds, such as ducks and geese, respect their
space. Do not rush toward them and observe
from a safe distance.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Move
slowly when observing animals in cages or in exhibits. More than likely you will see more. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not climb on exhibit railings or fences.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Stay
on recommended paths. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not litter. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Skip
the earbuds. The animals do not want to
hear your music. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not complain loudly about empty exhibits.
Animals may not be in view for an important reason. Return later.
Besides, loud noises can cause animals to become frightened or
aggressive.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not tap on exhibit windows, as this also frightens animals. Plus, it is disrespectful. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most
zoos do not allow alcohol, smoking, or pets—good rule. It is best to just assume yours follows these
same rules and abide by them. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Lastly<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Finally,
it is disrespectful to make fun of or imitate an animal or its behavior. In
fact, Jack Hanna, director emeritus of the Columbus Zoo, and well-known animal
expert has used the ‘R’ word in various interviews since the attack when
referring to human behavior toward animals in zoos. The ‘R’ word in this instance is respect. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
from The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Latte? </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
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Bike and Bike Path Etiquette Rules</span></a></span><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span color="windowtext" face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-color-alt: windowtext;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/beware-sharing-too-much-hurting-others.html"><span style="color: black;"><span color="windowtext" style="text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="text-decoration-line: none;">Beware Sharing Too Much & Hurting Others
on Social Networking Sites</span></span></span></a> </span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"><span face=""Lato",sans-serif" style="color: #292929; font-size: 15pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-5129562573178507252021-09-12T14:14:00.002-07:002021-09-12T14:14:14.754-07:00Respect Goes a Long Way on Halloween <p style="text-align: center;"> <iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/DsMdw3nLzAA" width="320" youtube-src-id="DsMdw3nLzAA"></iframe></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
principals of <i>Halloween Etiquette </i>are
no different from any other form of etiquette; everyone involved should display
respect, consideration, and courtesy for others and their property. But what are the rules of Halloween Etiquette? Let’s review.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Treat-or-Treaters<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-bidi-font-style: italic;">Respect</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-bidi-font-style: italic;"> <b>People</b><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
receiving a treat, say “thank you,” even if it is a toothbrush. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
lights = no knock. Darkened <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/housewarming-party-advice.html">houses</a>
are off-limits. We must assume they do not
participate. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No
knocking on doors after 8 pm. Children
are usually in bed by 8-8:30.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Only
ring the doorbell or knock on the door once.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Gather
in groups no larger than five, more than that and <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/birthday-giftless.html">children</a>
become too excited and noisy. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Many
work outside the home and have no time to decorate. If there is an outdoor light on but no
decorations, assume that the homebodies didn’t have time to decorate. They are fair game.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
teens wish to trick or treat, they should dress the part and so not knock after
8 pm. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Respect
Property</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Stay
out of neighbors' grass and their flowerbeds.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not touch anything on the porch. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Parents,
Please Remind Children</span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Stay
out of gardens and off the grass. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Knock
quietly and say thank you kindly.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Be
courteous of other trick-or-treaters by stepping out of the way so they may
step up to the door.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Home Bodies<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not try to scare young children. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Smile
when answering the door; do not act as if it is an imposition. These revelers are your guests. Offer <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2016/10/brooksideclustersreview.html">candy</a>
to everyone who comes to your door, including the parents. Hey, they deserve a bit of Halloween
cheer. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Provide
a safe place for the children to visit.
Please do not decorate in a way that small children might hurt
themselves. And clean off your porch or
entry so your Halloween guests do not trip.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
you choose not to participate, realize that it will be noisier than usual. However, it is only one evening. So, please do not become too upset or angry
with those who are enjoying the festivities.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When are Children Too Old to Trick-or-Treat?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Determining
whether a child is too old for trick or treating is an individual
decision. No one can make a blanket decision
about age. If you feel that your child
is too old to go trick or treating, perhaps you could assist in the planning of
a Halloween Party—safe and sane.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/an-interview-with-etiquette-consultant.html"><span style="color: windowtext; text-decoration-line: none;">An Interview
With an Etiquette Consultant About Father's Day </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/are-good-manners-dead.html"><span style="text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="color: black;">Are
Good Manners Dead?</span></span></span></a><span style="color: #292929;"><u1:p></u1:p></span></span><span style="color: #292929; font-family: "Lato",sans-serif; font-size: 15.0pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Lato, sans-serif; font-size: 15pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/etiquette-101-how-to-host-adult.html" style="cursor: pointer;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 150%; text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="color: black;">Etiquette 101: How-to Host an Adult Birthday
Party That Will Please Your Guests</span></span></span></a><span style="color: #292929;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-85909745460877877682021-09-12T13:15:00.000-07:002021-09-12T13:15:00.296-07:00Voices of our children: Does having good manners matter? <p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6QzsA5gNJ9JVFuBK5HZBZNJU0dzbmejufIq6tPYvOlvb9kLDg9hNsg2QGt1gupvgNiFN4X5rcSlBgUAudEi0wd2NyS1uObyU8qL_auZNPpeE9tDdt0NrgGVje9w67EtjQcrcJ4aI9q2A/s2048/060603c0057.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="friends; children; girls" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1366" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6QzsA5gNJ9JVFuBK5HZBZNJU0dzbmejufIq6tPYvOlvb9kLDg9hNsg2QGt1gupvgNiFN4X5rcSlBgUAudEi0wd2NyS1uObyU8qL_auZNPpeE9tDdt0NrgGVje9w67EtjQcrcJ4aI9q2A/w213-h320/060603c0057.jpg" title="Girls who are friends" width="213" /></a><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Studies
indicate that treating others well, or using good manners, helps us build
stronger <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/acknowledge-birth-with-card.html">relationships</a>
in business and our social lives. This
seems obvious. After all, don't we all
want to be treated kindly? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Nevertheless,
what do our young people think? In their
eyes, is using good manners at home or at school important? Additionally, what do they consider good
manners? After reading endless articles
of children staging fights just to record them for YouTube, I feared that they
could care less about manners. Surprisingly,
from my interviews, I found that this is far from true. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Joshua of Sacramento, CA Knows What Good Manners Are<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Joshua,
a 10-year-old living in Sacramento, California believes that good manners are extremely
important. When asked what good manners
are, Joshua did not hesitate to state, “A person is well-mannered when he says
please, thank you, and excuse me. And we
don’t ask for things when we are in someone else’s home.” He had specific reasons to believe that good
manners are important in his life: “When using good manners, you can get what
you want without having to repeat it. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">He
continues, "Exhibiting good manners is important at school because
teachers are helping you to get into <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/05/internships-can-lead-you-to-your-dream.html">college</a>
and we should be grateful.” All of this
seems quite reasonable considering that attending college, typically, helps us
prepare for a bright and profitable future.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Marisa of Davis, CA Believes in Behaving Well<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Venturing
a bit west of Sacramento, a group of young people from Davis graciously stopped
to chat about their views on this subject.
Marisa, a lovely, bright 12-year-old, believes behaving well is the
meaning of good manners. She thinks that when we do not use our best manners,
we can be misunderstood. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Tommy and Ryan Choose to be Polite. No Profanity<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Her
friend, Tommy, chimes in with an even clearer view stating, "Those with
good manners are polite." He
continues, "Polite people respect others by making good eye contact when
talking, and they don’t interrupt.” <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Additionally,
“If we are rude and don’t use good manners, people might think that is our
personality. We should want to make a
good impression.” Ryan, also 12,
completely agrees, “That we should be polite and use no profanity because you can’t ‘undo’ a bad impression.”
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What do the 13-Year-Olds Think?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Luckily,
a couple 13-year-olds wanted to add their opinions to the mix and did so
quite well. Aggie believes that we
should want to appear polite because we do not want to look
unsophisticated. In addition, John, a
very cerebral young man, states that good manners are, “…being considerate,
polite, and respectful of others.” <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Interestingly,
although he agrees that good manners are important, he believes that we use a
different set of manners for different situations. He elaborates, “It really depends on the
situation. If interviewing for a <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/01/building-strong-business-relationship.html">job</a>,
you would be a bit more reserved and not show as much of your personality. Of course,
you would not insult the person; you would be respectful and act politely."
He adds, "Whereas, in a social situation, you can be more direct showing
more of your personality, remembering always to be respectful and polite.” <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul><li><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Wow! John nailed it here!</span></li></ul><p></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">In Summary<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Although
this represents a small sample of our young, it offers some hope of many more who
may also believe that manners and civility are important. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/proper-etiquette-when-giving-receiving.html"><span color="windowtext" style="text-decoration-line: none;">Proper
Etiquette When Giving & Receiving Gifts </span></a><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span color="windowtext"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p>
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Etiquette or Want a @#&% With That Latte? </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/beware-sharing-too-much-hurting-others.html"><span color="windowtext" style="text-decoration-line: none;">Beware Sharing
Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites </span></a> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><br /></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-73456216429784833832021-09-12T12:30:00.007-07:002021-09-12T12:30:58.595-07:00How to Raise a Well-Mannered Child<p style="text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMSP057ffG3Bbd7kp-9iPbqbRexY5rW-GnvkikHh0upYKNccPJucifQYCppeyunteCQFUjYCvBBVeFpkeWzA7bQqt4oSYwoOSErbQCfd2q4ODUlB0i-2ZSoFPKeA50YjUusEFpZn8QF50/s1200/Simone+9.1.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="little girl;" border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1200" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMSP057ffG3Bbd7kp-9iPbqbRexY5rW-GnvkikHh0upYKNccPJucifQYCppeyunteCQFUjYCvBBVeFpkeWzA7bQqt4oSYwoOSErbQCfd2q4ODUlB0i-2ZSoFPKeA50YjUusEFpZn8QF50/w320-h320/Simone+9.1.jpg" title="A little girl" width="320" /></a></div><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Preparing
a child for school is more than shopping for the newest fashions and making
sure he/she has enough #2 pencils.
Children need to take their best manners to school. Those with good manners are viewed as
socially savvy and are well-liked. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Manners are first taught at home.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Not
taught at school, manners and social skills are taught by parents in the home,
for which there is no better teacher.
This can be a daunting task but shouldn't be. There are countless teachable moments during
each day to use. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
parent and <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/birthday-giftless.html">child</a>
are together and witness a child taking something from another, this is a
teachable moment. When the child steps
into another's garden to pick a flower, this is a teachable moment. A parenting parent uses this particular
moment to tell the child to stop, asks where her tiny feet are and where they
should be. She would then know that it
is disrespectful to go into a neighbor's garden bed. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Shared moments are teachable moments and are quality time.<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Once
children learn manners basics – respect, consideration, kindness, and courtesy –
they better "fit" into society and will feel more comfortable in
social situations, such as school. But must
every shared moment be a teaching experience? Shouldn't parents save some time
to just enjoy their children? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">All
quality time is the same; playing a game, playing in the park, etc. Each moment is the perfect time to teach <i>and</i> enjoy each other. Consider the family dinner hour. Since all social
skills and <a href="https://thepolitetraveler.blogspot.com/2021/09/using-our-best-manners-when-vacationing.html">manners</a>
are used at the table, it is a perfect teachable moment. They can learn most everything they will need
throughout their lives like communications skills, respect, table manners, consideration,
and courtesy. And our valuable communication skills include table conversation,
body language, and utensil usage. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">By
purposely directing conversations toward appropriate topics, parents teach what
is appropriate to discuss at the table.
Modeling proper body language <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2017/06/educationalsuccessdavis.html">teaches</a>
children how to sit properly. Of course,
watching the movie “Princess Diaries” helps as well. I’m not joking here. Check it out and you’ll see why. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Finally,
teach respect by sharing everything at the table, not interrupting, and not
leaving the table while others continue eating.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Watch for those valuable teachable moments!<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Yes,
parenting is a full-time job, especially because you are the teacher as
well. But it is a very fulfilling,
enjoyable one as well. Enjoy each day and
watch for those teachable moments to help your child in school and in life. Great.
Parents. Parent! <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
more information about teaching your children manners, please read our, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/How-Teach-Your-Children-Manners/dp/1544679998/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=how+to+teach+your+children+manners&qid=1631473452&sr=8-3">How
to Teach Your Children Manners book</a>.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/09/best-guest-etiquette.html"><span color="windowtext" style="text-decoration-line: none;">How to Be the
Best Guest </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><br /></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-84894299891314108702021-09-09T13:42:00.002-07:002021-09-09T13:42:16.935-07:00Coffee House Etiquette or Want a @#&% With That Latte? <p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAhKMVxXvT2HxZs3OwTilSGeAnf5BtIqZzcmJMtniYIFd90NX9AD56HaZEZpJXY8LuzaiX5ZnZXZTCoMQgm31NUKXJAf3MQCddSL5CjDK1CKs_-rMXwoUSaXzn8tnh8H0KUPWk1_d0GFI/s2048/27377641.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="cup of coffee" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1362" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAhKMVxXvT2HxZs3OwTilSGeAnf5BtIqZzcmJMtniYIFd90NX9AD56HaZEZpJXY8LuzaiX5ZnZXZTCoMQgm31NUKXJAf3MQCddSL5CjDK1CKs_-rMXwoUSaXzn8tnh8H0KUPWk1_d0GFI/w213-h320/27377641.jpg" title="Cup of Coffee" width="213" /></a><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Since
many of us enjoy spending time in our local coffee houses, we should consider
how our behavior might affect other coffee addicts who share the same space. After all, for many of us, this outing is our
brain tidy; a time to get away from work and other stresses of our lives. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">To
borrow a phrase from one coffee house, “It is not just <a href="https://thepolitetraveler.blogspot.com/2020/02/restaurant-reviews-kona-coffee.html">coffee</a>,
it is an experience.” Yet, to some, it
is an extension of their office. Nevertheless,
to all of us, this is a shared space and not one that belongs to us. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">No Blatant Table Swooping<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Recently,
as I sat with my decaf java in an overly crowded shop, I noticed a blatant
social gaff. The affectionate couple sitting
next to me — <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/03/flirteffectively.html">affectionate</a>
in a positive sense, not slobbering please-get-a-room sense — was preparing to
leave. As they gathered their
belongings, an abrupt young man swooped in for the kill. No actual bloodletting, unless we consider
his now tattered reputation. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">He
snatched the table without so much as “I can’t believe my luck; are you two
leaving?” Nope. He sat down, tossing his belongings in front
of the empty table next to him. The
couple stood dumbfounded, mouths open, stared for a second, and left. …great example of a “Please don’t.” <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">So,
what are some other do (s) and don’t-even-think-about-it (s)? Please consider the following. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Please
Do Not<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Infringe
on other’s space by spreading out your belongings. Stay in your space. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Sneak
a peek at other’s computer screens.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Swoop
in. If it appears as if someone is
leaving, ask <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/how-to-handle-impolite-friends.html">politely</a>. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Grab
newspapers left from others without asking those around you if they mind. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Blow
your nose in public. Use the
restroom. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Laugh
loudly or do anything else that is loud for that matter.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Please
Do<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Treat
the employees with respect. These
cheerful people are there to serve you, but they are not below any of us. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Parent! Parenting includes keeping children in their
seats and not running around. This is an
excellent time to teach ‘respecting property and people’. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Gentlemen,
if accompanied by a lady, treat her as such.
Simple gestures as offering her a chair before sitting down are
noticed—very positive.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Hold
doors for others and thank those who open and hold them for you. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Cell Phone
Users</span></b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not talk on your cell phone when ordering your brew. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Take
your Blue Tooth devise out of your ear when with others. You are not part of the Star Trek crew. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
talking on your cell phone, do so quietly.
Do not disturb those around you.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Mute
when with others. Those in your company
are more important than an incoming call or notification.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">In Conclusion<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Coffee
houses are a great place to meet and greet.
In fact, it is a great place to meet your next date, which is not news
to most. So, knowing this, ladies might want
to dress as if they are going out dancing.
Uh…no. Disturbing those around us
also includes the visual. Revealing the
assets just may be a bit much for those who just want their caffeine fix. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Conflicts by Following These Simple Bike and Bike Path Etiquette Rules </span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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on Social Networking Sites</span></span></a> </span></u1:p></span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"> </span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-81406707854764983592021-09-06T12:16:00.001-07:002021-09-06T12:16:23.533-07:00Proper Etiquette When Giving & Receiving Gifts<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/24U3dg4EoMM" width="320" youtube-src-id="24U3dg4EoMM"></iframe></div>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Some
feel obligated to give gifts and thus don’t give thoughtful gifts. Also, many are confused and do not know who
they should give gifts to. So, we should
give gifts to only those with whom we want to give and consider the person’s
preferences as we choose the <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/missing-holiday-gift.html">gift</a>. This also means that we can and should keep
our gift-giving list intimate.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 15.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Gift Givers<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
from the Heart<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
something you feel the recipient would like. It’s only good <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/is-it-rude-to-inquire-about-age.html">manners</a>.
Give to only to those you wish to give to. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Gift Cards
are Fine<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
with other types of gifts, give the gift card the receiver would want. Know the
receiver well.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 15.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Gift Receivers<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Wear
Your Happy Face<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Receive
each gift with a positive response even if it isn’t what you would have chosen
for yourself. A gift is special.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Regift
Carefully<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">This
can be done if handled correctly. The receiver shouldn’t know the original
giver. The gift must be in the original packaging and never used. It shouldn’t
be a unique, personal gift or a useless cast-off. The original card should be removed. Finally,
it should be something the giver is sure the receiver would want.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Returning
the Gift<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Again, this
must be done very carefully.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">The gift-giver should never know of the exchange.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Do not
return a gift if the absence of it will be noticed; consider if the giver will
be expecting to see it.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Consider if
you really should return it. Perhaps it is something you could use.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Write Thank-You
Notes<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 15.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Common Questions<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
I give to the parents of my son’s <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/03/flirteffectively.html">girlfriend</a>? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">Typically,
no. Give only if you are very close
friends. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
my child has more than one teacher, do I give gifts to all? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">No. Give in private. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Give
only to those teachers your child likes?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">This
is your choice, but teachers don’t expect gifts. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
I give to my housekeeper?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">This
is optional. If your housekeeper is the
same person every time and you feel she/he does an excellent job, then it is a
nice gesture to give. </span></li></ul><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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KCRA Interviews</span></span></a><u1:p></u1:p></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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Halloween With All Treats and No Tricks</span></span></a><u1:p></u1:p></span></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/how-to-avoid-holiday-etiquette-fail.html" style="cursor: pointer;"><span style="color: black; text-decoration-line: none;"><span color="windowtext">How-To Avoid
the Holiday-Etiquette Fail</span></span></a><u1:p></u1:p></span></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-30994525302365447432021-09-04T15:25:00.001-07:002021-09-04T15:26:10.908-07:00How to Be the Best Guest<p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNCTIUAkk_PvOCrVSkwPM2CDeZQ7kX6Jak2lK2PM3pjm464keM1T-YoeS6u_GXcTsgsd2EGoDK9ioB7JcJlehYzG8PrBwyf9wK89LQ6UZYzQBX84yNqY80R3wx_6tI3-xJXKUQIl_42ZA/s2048/080403c0200.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="women with wine" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1366" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNCTIUAkk_PvOCrVSkwPM2CDeZQ7kX6Jak2lK2PM3pjm464keM1T-YoeS6u_GXcTsgsd2EGoDK9ioB7JcJlehYzG8PrBwyf9wK89LQ6UZYzQBX84yNqY80R3wx_6tI3-xJXKUQIl_42ZA/w213-h320/080403c0200.jpg" title="Women toasting with wine" width="213" /></a><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">You’ve
just been invited to a dinner <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/dinner-party-etiquette-in-four.html">party</a>
from a new neighbor’s home. Undoubtedly
you want to make a good impression. It
would be great to be on everyone’s guest list.
So, how do the best guests behave?
Read on to find out.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><b>Thank The Host</b></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">As
soon as you receive the invitation, thank the host, and offer to bring
something.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Take
a hostess gift. It may be a bottle of
wine, flowers, or even a small box of chocolate. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><b>You've Arrived. Now What?</b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not bring <a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/09/money-saving-cake-alternatives.html">food</a>
except for a box of candy—or something similar—as a gift. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
you have offered to bring something and the host has agreed, then this is
fine. But typically, the host has the
party menu planned and won’t have room for your contribution. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Arrive
at the stated time or no more than fifteen minutes after. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
not <a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/07/what-is-burgundian-wine.html">drink</a>
too much or bore everyone by dominating the conversation. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><b>How to Know When it's Time to Leave?</b></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Leave
the party when the host signals it is the end of the evening. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Usually
this is a subtle gesture, such as offering coffee so your drive is easier, or
asking what you plan to do tomorrow (a direct statement indicating that the
evening is over). <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
guests don’t recognize the subtle message, the host will begin to pick up a few
items, which means that they would like to clean up. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Typically,
if there are no games or any other diversions after dinner, one hour is
sufficient. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Follow </span></a><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/inviting-planning-and-sending-guests.html"><span style="color: black; text-decoration-line: none;">Inviting,
Planning, and Sending Guests Out the Door</span></a></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/02/everyday-manners-modern-woman-etiquette.html" style="cursor: pointer;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="color: black; text-decoration-line: none;">What is the
Etiquette for Today's Woman?</span></span></a></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-83682261521591425472021-09-04T15:18:00.001-07:002021-09-04T15:18:31.631-07:00How to be a Great Host<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/D4kJuvAVEiI" width="320" youtube-src-id="D4kJuvAVEiI"></iframe></div>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When you've decided to hope a gathering. You are now a host which means: you invite, you pay. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">Hosts
provide all refreshments and </span><a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/09/money-saving-cake-alternatives.html" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">food</a><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">.
Never ask guests to bring the party. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><b>If
you invite, you entertain.</b></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Entertain
your guests by inviting interesting people with similar views. Interact with your guests and always ensure
they are never thirsty or hungry. They
shouldn’t have to ask for anything.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><b>Do
not frighten your guests with formality.</b></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Set
the table with no more than three forks at a time even for a very formal party. And forget the finger bowls for heaven’s
sake. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><b>Do
not write ‘adult only event’ on the invitation.</b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">This
is insulting to parents. However, we can
imply it by listing the party as a ‘</span><a href="https://livingwelletc.blogspot.com/2021/07/what-is-burgundian-wine.html" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">cocktail</a><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">
party’ and by scheduling it later in the evening. Also, use an RSVP. Ask the guests to call you so you can
verbally inform them that this event is best child-free due to alcohol or the
time of day. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><b>Do not
expect or ask for gifts...</b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">... even if this is a party to celebrate an adult birthday,
new home, or anniversary. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
you receive a hostess gift, receive it with a smile. If it is a bottle of wine, it is a gift; it
is your decision to open it or not. However, because so many do not know that a
gift bottle is a gift, a great <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/dinner-party-etiquette-in-four.html">host</a>
would try to elicit information slyly. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Perhaps
say, "This looks like a great bottle, would you like me to open it with
dinner?" The guest may now choose whether they wish for you to open it or
if it is meant for your collection. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
by The Polite One<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
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Follow </span></a><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/03/inviting-planning-and-sending-guests.html"><span style="color: black; text-decoration-line: none;">Inviting,
Planning, and Sending Guests Out the Door</span></a></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><a href="https://thepoliteonesinsights.blogspot.com/2021/02/everyday-manners-modern-woman-etiquette.html" style="cursor: pointer;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="color: black; text-decoration-line: none;">What is the
Etiquette for Today's Woman?</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>ThePoliteOnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02038027698610124522noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770718288830483256.post-56458431686160641102021-09-03T15:01:00.003-07:002021-09-03T15:01:56.918-07:00How to Raise a Thankful Child<p style="text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxmBMtNF8ydUJ0cEGS3Y6LR1vRfZVcrlRp-z7GfQYWJp-yYHMe1thTXkK3mCVi6NNpDRy610PY2dSza7GXLeOACkz3Tn24Glpv2s81KpdnoHdYSeUNgwDWxZ1UebRlQfzzm81gSh6IBLA/s2048/30401395.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="little girl; white girl; girl in pretty dress" border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1363" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxmBMtNF8ydUJ0cEGS3Y6LR1vRfZVcrlRp-z7GfQYWJp-yYHMe1thTXkK3mCVi6NNpDRy610PY2dSza7GXLeOACkz3Tn24Glpv2s81KpdnoHdYSeUNgwDWxZ1UebRlQfzzm81gSh6IBLA/w213-h320/30401395.jpg" title="Little girl in party clothes" width="213" /></a></div><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Previously
Published by Sierra Style and </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">is entirely revised and </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px;">rewritten</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Parenting
involves more than just keeping our children safe and well-fed. Our responsibilities extend to teaching our
children fundamental life skills preparing them for a well-mannered, socially
savvy future. Truly, your child will have no better teacher in his life. We all recognize this. So, as teachers, how do we teach our children
the essential life skill ‘to be thankful’?
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Where to Begin<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It
seems like we could simply tell our children to say, “thank you” and that
should be sufficient. But for our
children to learn thankfulness we need to do more than just talking-the-talk. Thankfulness is something they must
feel. Still, we must begin with those
magic words, while <i>teaching</i> basic <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/how-to-handle-four-everyday-manners.html">manners</a>. Basic manners and expressing <i>our</i>
thankfulness help our children learn, and feel, empathy and respect, which are
vital tools for teaching our children to be thankful. In other words, we must walk-the-walk. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Can’t My Child Learn Thankfulness by Receiving More Gifts?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">One
of the biggest problems we face as parents these days is our busy schedule. We work long hours, our travel time is extensive,
and our children’s schedules require professional organizing skills by age
seven. Add to this mix that many of us
tend to compensate for the lack of time spent with our children by buying them
‘things’ and it is easier to understand why our children may not be as thankful
as they could be.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Continuing
to give our children more ‘things’ creates an expectation of receiving more and
never having enough. <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/04/how-to-godparent-and-parent-issues.html">Gifts</a>
should be reflective, time appropriate, and given for a reason. Typical gift-giving events are fine if there
is some restraint involved. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
example, a young child doesn’t require 20 gifts for her birthday. Yet, rewarding a child for an accomplishment
such as raising his grades is very appropriate.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Teach the Importance of Giving<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Learning
to give to others is another valuable exercise to help create empathy and
thankfulness. Praise your child for
performing special favors such as helping a neighbor who recently underwent
surgery or for volunteering during the holiday season. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Today,
entire families are gathering items for children in need, as well as choosing
to spend Thanksgiving providing food for the homeless instead of gaining a few
pounds at the family dinner table. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Write Thank-You Notes<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Sit
with your children to write thank-you <a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/08/must-i-handwrite-thank-you-notes.html">notes</a>
for gifts and for special favors. A
great example of this is for your child to write a thank-you note to the parent
of his friend who not only hauled his group of friends to a recent event, but
also chaperoned without complaining.
Children won’t realize that this is something for which to be thankful
without parental intervention. The point is that we want to demonstrate that
good behavior should be recognized. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Be The Model of Thankfulness and Giving<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Finally,
to teach we must first model positive behaviors. When we model thankful behavior, our children
learn quickly. Becoming a thankful
person is a learned behavior. So, when your
children behave politely or without provocation perform thoughtful tasks, such
as clearing the dinner table, behave in a thankful manner. Be thankful, demonstrate thankful behavior,
and your child will become a thankful person.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6.0pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">More
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
have updated this decade-old in-depth interview that focused on me as a professional,
etiquette, manners, and societal expectations in general. At the time, I was presenting workshops and
private sessions—well before I retired. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Amazingly,
not much has changed in the etiquette world.
One huge exception, and disappointment, is how a faction of our society
appears oblivious to how their actions affect others. This is a step backward. Still, I believe we will recover as we have
in the past. It’s up to all of us to
ensure it happens soon. Please read on.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How
did you begin and develop your career as an etiquette professional and
consultant?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Originally,
I created my first etiquette course for the classroom. I'm a teacher. It was quite a hit with the children, their
parents, and other teachers in the school.
So, when I decided to retire early from the classroom in 1994, I decided
to teach etiquette. I didn't begin my
business until 1996 though. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
began teaching only young children but found that teens and college students
needed even more help. So, I began
creating lessons as I found a need. My
business and career truly blossomed from a small seed.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
would say is the essence of etiquette? In other words, if one is presented with
an etiquette dilemma, what kinds of considerations should one observe to arrive
at a polite solution? <o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
believe that the essence of <a href="https://gotweddingetiquette.blogspot.com/2021/08/wedding-etiquette-for-parents.html">etiquette</a>
is to be the little skipper rock.
Imagine a calm pond with no disturbing noises around you. You see a little skipper rock and fling it
across the water. There are very few
ripples before the rock <i>quietly</i> disappears. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Now
imagine a loud boisterous person picking up a big rock and tossing it in the
water. The water is no longer calm.
There are big ripples that flow out to the edges of the pond. The noise and ripples affect everything
around the pond. To be polite, we should
want to affect others only in a positive manner with respect, kindness, and
consideration. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Is
there a difference between being polite and having good manners?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">A
little. Treating people well is being
polite. We want to be
"nice". But good manners go
a bit further: knowing to say "excuse me" when stepping in
between people, opening doors for those nearby or for those who need
help...etc. A person with good manners
knows the <i>rules</i> of polite behavior in all situations. The rules are called: etiquette. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Some
would criticize rules of etiquette as fake, old-fashioned, or even classist. How
would you respond?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Most of those who say this really don't understand what good manners and etiquette are. We, all of us in our society, create the
rules over time. These rules change as
our society changes. These rules are,
basically, the polite behavior most people expect from others. When we don't receive it, we notice. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">So,
to those who feel that only the wealthy follow etiquette or proper behavior,
might be putting themselves in an embarrassing situation of being viewed by
those they know and care about as ill-mannered and socially inept. That label is not something, I believe,
anyone would want. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">How
can someone without good manners begin to develop them (besides consulting you
or your site)?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
we want to "fit in" and to be viewed as well-mannered, all we need to
do is to be observant. Watch those who
exude socially savvy behavior and emulate them.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Do
the rules of etiquette differ depending on the specific relationship at hand?
For example, are the rules different when dealing with co-workers, customers, and close friends and family?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">It's
not really that the rules are completely different for different situations,
but there is a different etiquette involved for each situation. We would still treat others much the same,
but our <i>behavior</i> is tweaked for each situation. This tweaking is based on societal
expectations. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">For
example: we know what is expected of us at work, so we are more formal in our
manners and typically more reserved with our feelings. When at home, we are more open with our
feelings, thus sharing what’s on our minds, and are less formal. But we still treat all with respect and
kindness.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">You've
been consulted by businesses such as Noah's Bagels. What advantages does proper
etiquette offer both employers and employees across various industries? <o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">People
skills are highly valued no matter the industry. So, when we know how to treat people well, to
engage others in conversation, to be able to acknowledge others in a believable
fashion, that is a major advantage over those who cannot. And it is great for <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2020/12/how-to-become-valuable-employee-and-wow.html">business</a>. Customers want to be treated well and will
frequent businesses that employ those who behave properly. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Have
you always been well-mannered? <o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
believe so, but I wasn't brought up to be.
It wasn't a focus. We were
brought up to take care of ourselves and to go out and gain employment. But I
always worried about how my behavior affected others and tried to be nice in
all situations—not always so easy. My
biggest issue was that I never felt like I knew how to connect with others which
made we feel out of place. This is one
of the driving forces for me now. I
don't want anyone else to feel as I did growing up.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Is
it ever polite to talk about money/finances or do the truly well-mannered avoid
this subject (except with those who are directly involved)?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Unless
asked, it really is considered boorish to discuss money/finances with those who
haven't started the conversation. In
fact, even then, we should keep particulars to ourselves if that person doesn't
absolutely need to know. It can be
viewed as boorish or bragging if we go on and on about our financial
well-being. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Are
there any celebrities you think exemplify proper etiquette?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Yes,
absolutely. Craig Delano Melvin, a broadcast journalist with MSNBC, is polite and kind. He always treats others with care and is
private about his family. Still, a
writer friend of mine interviewed him recently and found him incredibly
friendly and a proud father. If any male
wants to know how a gentleman behaves, look no farther than Mr. Melvin. </span><span style="background: white; color: #444444; font-family: Roboto; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">There
will always be rude, selfish people with whom we will be forced to interact.
Any tips for dealing with difficult people without stooping to their level?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Unfortunately,
this has become the rule, instead of the exception these days. *sigh* <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">When
faced with someone with whom we must interact, it is best to keep it short and
sweet—just the facts and leave. I call
it being the duck. We just let the water—the
negativity—flow off our backs, smile, and keep moving. I remind myself that I don't have to live
with that person. It helps me.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">You've
described yourself as an advocate of civility. What must we do to gain as a
culture by embracing etiquette?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">If
we all make it a priority to treat others with respect and kindness and truly
try to think of others in a broad manner, our society would truly be one, one
that doesn't put a higher value on one person over another. I believe it comes from basic empathy. Additionally, I believe when we truly empathize
with others, we notice them, feeling their pain as ours, resulting in a kind
behavior that would never harm. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Ultimately,
I suppose that translates to all of us behaving in a positive manner focusing
on kindness, respect, courtesy, and consideration rather than on harming
others. If this were a possibility, it
would be a wonderful place to live—less crime, less violence. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">You
gained significant media and Twitter attention as the result of sharing the
name of an oft-berated teen singer. What did you learn about society and
yourself from that frenzy?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Ah,
yes. It's Friday! That was quite an odd situation. Of course, I know and knew about hateful
people. In fact, I have been a victim of
violence myself. Still, I honestly didn't
know about the level of hateful and malicious behavior of Internet trolls. That was quite an education. Some of the things they said, wrote on a
computer screen for all to see, were shocking.
And I've seen quite a lot in my years.
Wow. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Surprisingly
though, I found myself to be very calm about it all, even though typically I
would be quite upset reading that someone wanted to kill me. Perhaps knowing they were directed toward
someone else helped. Yet, it was very
scary stuff, especially when considering that malicious verbosity was directing
toward a teen. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">I
found that if I countered with humor and humanistic language, it helped them
see that she and I are real people. To
be honest, I think it helped me. Due to
my reaction to the vitriol, I have a larger following, which is wonderful. It was my hope the end result will be that I
get my wish: more people in our society committing RAKs (random acts of
kindness) every day. It hasn’t
happened yet, but I am the eternal optimist.
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
internet has had a significant impact on how we communicate. Despite its casualness, what rules of
etiquette still apply to online communications such as email, Facebook, and Twitter?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">The
rules are the same and many are beginning to realize it. We should communicate in all manners as if we
are <a href="https://gotetiquetteadvice.blogspot.com/2021/07/how-to-avoid-answering-question.html">communicating</a>
to a real person. We should use capital
letters and punctuation when possible.
Of course, Twitter makes that a bit difficult. But how badly do we want to be
understood? If we do, we should make it
easier to do so. And, with email, reply
quickly. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We
should also remember that the Internet is a vast universe of information, and
when we put ourselves out there, we will be judged. So we must only share what we want EVERYONE
to know. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">These
sites are also extremely polarizing these days. It is a must that we research independent
sources for bias and truth before posting or reposting any tidbit. The plethora of the false and fake is tearing
families and communities apart. Polite
behavior and education = kind and good. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">What
is the relationship between dress and etiquette? <o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Everything
we do matters and everything we do affects others around us. This is true of our appearance as well. Imagine someone walking up to you to ask for
directions. If this person is well-dressed,
we wouldn't hesitate. However, if this
person is dressed in rags or provocative clothing, we might hesitate. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">We
all judge others based on their attire.
It's ingrained in our brains: police officer >uniform; chef
>uniform. We all wear the uniform we
want others to believe we should <a href="https://etiquette-now-insights.blogspot.com/2021/03/time-to-polish-our-professional-presence.html">wear</a>
and who/what we are portraying. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 6pt; text-align: justify;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">So,
let's consider how this applies to etiquette.
We know the behavior that is expected of us when we participate in a
certain activity like skiing. We
certainly wouldn't show up to ski with our friends wearing a baseball uniform,
even if we wore a jacket for warmth. We
wouldn't fit in. Others would treat us
as if we were odd. The same is true for
the workplace. Those who dress the part
are taken more seriously, as if they take their job more seriously. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
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