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Rules to Avoid Sleeping in the Doghouse on V'day

Answers based on a survey of 100+ respondents

Survival Guide for Men

Let's face it.  Valentine's Day is a perilous day for men.  She may be optimistic with high expectations and you cannot get it right.  Sigh.  I agree that it's just not fair, and also that Valentine's Day shouldn’t be only about opening a wallet.  

With that in mind, here’s a short tutorial on women that might help you stay out of the doghouse and wow that special person in your life this February 14. 

Understanding the Double X

Consider why women tend to like "Chic Flicks.” It’s all about romance, baby.  Many women crave a partner who make them feel special and loved.   Give her romance and your ladylove will be impressed.   Appeal to this side of her and your evening may just involve more than just a peck on the check. 

Train for the evening by watching a few of her favorite girly films to gain perspective of what she might appreciate.  Perhaps watch one together after a meal you have prepared.  She'll love it!

The one ultimate, not-to-break rule is that your gesture or gift be thoughtful.  Learn what she likes and do it.  It does not necessarily require cash, but it does require thoughtfulness. 

Romantic Ideas:

  • Surprise her with her favorite beverage, perhaps a nice sparkling wine. 
  • Cook her favorite meal pairing it with her favorite beverage.
  • Write a poem for her using significant events from your love story as material.

Women can be like magpies.

Typically, women like shiny things, like jewelry and sparkling wine.  Of course, throwing in a few pieces of dark chocolate may seal the deal.  Both the sparkling wine and chocolate are relatively inexpensive.  However, jewelry can be expensive, so check out local thrift stores and estate sales.  Don't laugh.  There are some great finds.  Searching for the perfect piece of jewelry implies that you wanted to find something utterly unique, something that suits her. Just ensure it is something you know she will love.  

Women hint, so put your listening-ears on!

Women tend to hint rather than explicitly state their preferences.   Most often, when women want something, they will say something along the lines of, "Wow, these earrings are half-price this weekend!"  Avoid the temptation to reply, "Why do you need another pair of earrings when you already have 50 other pairs." This may earn you the look and a heavy sigh.  Instead, try smiling and changing the subject.  File the information in short-term storage and secretly purchase those half-off earrings.  Pair this with chocolate and you have a winning hand.   

Important dos and don'ts for the special evening

While it is not imperative to act on all of these suggestions, attempt at least one. 
  • Do listen and follow through
  • Do remember to be thoughtful
  • Do something special just for her
  • Do include chocolate and something sparkly—only if within budget
  • Do not forget that it is Valentine's Day
  • Do not invite your friends to watch sports at your house that night
  • Do not give a generic greeting card without personalization; it’s thoughtless
  • Do not give her lingerie unless she wants it.  Usually, it appears to be a gift for you rather than for her.

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