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Etiquette 101: Top Three Gum Chewing No-No’s

Smacking, Popping, Nauseating Behavior …Oh My!

Gum chewing has been around for decades and for the most part, it’s inoffensive.  However, there are those times when gum chewing, especially smacking, is frowned upon.  Sometimes – strangely enough – it can even affect our future and how others view us.   Read on to learn how. 

Not at a wedding!

The wedding march begins as the bride walks the procession.  Ah, the lovely bride in her flowing gown smiling at her soon-to-be spouse.   All in the crowd stand as she floats down the aisle.  At once, her expression changes, she stops, as her guests’ heads turn toward alien sounds coming from the front row.   Smack, pop…yep, it’s the sounds of the ill-mannered gum chewer.  

Unfortunately, this scene is playing out every day somewhere in our lovely US of A.   Why is this of importance?  The simple answer is that the gum chewer’s smacking and popping distract from the very reason guests are attending the event.  It is disrespectful to the bridal couple and the guests who have come to witness and enjoy the moment.  Plus, it’s just plain irritating!


Not at a funeral!

Imagine you’ve just lost a beloved family member – someone whose life affected many.   As you stand in front of a sea of weeping eyes and with a lump in your throat the size of Texas, you begin to offer a heartfelt tribute at her funeral.  Your words are halted by bovine sounds of smacking accentuated by snapping and popping.   

This scene might seem embellished, but unfortunately, it happens all too often.  In fact, I recently appeared on a local network in response to a viewer’s experience with a similar situation.  The viewer was disgusted at the noise and inconsiderate behavior of the gum chewer for the bereaved.  

As an etiquette professional, I agree that smacking gum during a funeral is inconsiderate and unbelievably crude.   My advice: toss the gum before stepping through the doors.   We attend to give our respect, not to attain negative attention. 

Are you kidding me? Never at an interview!

As one who has taught interviewing skills for over a decade, I’m still floored by the staggering number of people who don’t consider every aspect of their appearance before the interview.   First impressions are extremely important, so most candidates agonize over choice of attire, haircut, and even the shine on their shoes.  Even so, many gum chewers smack, pop, and slurp their way through the interview unaware of the child-like image they emanate. 

Thus, it is best to nix the gum.  If concerned about bad breath, consider breath mints or sip some water directly before the interview.  But never, ever chew gum during an interview!

Everything we do matters.  Everything we do affects others—either in a positive or a negative manner.  Scrutinize your public behaviors and how each will affect others.  Decide how you want to be perceived.  If you want to be perceived as a socially savvy, considerate person, behave like one.  It’s that simple. 

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