Table Manners FAQs

"How do I eat..." is one of the many common questions I received daily as an etiquette specialist. Here are those questions with my answers.

How do I eat bread or rolls?

Place butter on the rim of the bread plate if you have one, if not use your dinner plate. Tear a small piece of bread or roll over your plate and butter the bread eating one piece at a time.

When eating soup, what do I do with the spoon when I am not holding it?

Place the spoon in the bowl or on the bowl liner if provided. Never allow a utensil to touch the table once it is used.

Which bread plate is mine?

Yours is on the left above the forks.

At a family-style meal, which way do I pass the food?

All dishes are passed from the left to the right.

During a business meal, when should I begin to discuss business?

Usually, you begin to discuss business after the first course, or appetizer. If the group is not having the first courses, wait until after everyone has ordered.

How do I use a finger bowl?

Finger bowls are rarely used anymore. If used at a formal meal, dip fingertips in the bowl and dry on your napkin.

When should I enter the dining room for a formal meal?

Enter when called to the table. Look for your place card and stand behind your chair until everyone is ready to sit.

Which side do I remove a plate?

Dishes are typically removed from the right.

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