Father’s Day Etiquette
Question
Even
though June is considered the season of graduation, how do we juggle dad’s day
and the grad? Aren’t they both important? What to do?
Answer
Separate
the two: grad and dad. Celebrate on two different days. Do
not use the same gift for dad as you did for mom. But use the same
sentiment.
Remember
that your father is a person who has particular likes and dislikes just as we
all do. Give something you know he will enjoy based on what you know
about him. If he likes to golf give him something golf-related—perhaps
a subscription to a golfing magazine.
Question
How
to make fathers feel special if there are dad and stepdad, or a gay
father?
Answer
It
really doesn’t matter if a father is gay. He’s still your father, so
treat him just as any other father. Nevertheless, if there are more
than one father, do something special for all. Alternate the actual
date between dads, while doing something for all on other days.
For example, this year on Father’s Day choose one father and celebrate the day
first with him. Discuss this with your other father (s) first, while
also choosing a date for his celebration. Next year, celebrate Father’s
Day with the other father.
Of
course, you could celebrate the actual day with all of your
fathers. You’d still have to choose with whom to begin the
day. That would be one long day, though, if you have more than two
fathers!
Question
How
do you celebrate when there is no dad?
Answer
We
can still celebrate the person who stands in as dad--if there is such a
person. I was one of those who didn’t have a
father. There was a time when I had a “father figure” in my
life. So, I designated him as my father for the
day. Thus, I showered the man with cupcakes and cards.
Question
You
have two moms? Do you acknowledge Father’s Day?
Answer
Everyone
is different. So perhaps some lesbian mothers wouldn’t mind and
might enjoy the honor of being both mother and father. However, it
is best that we don’t honor one of them as "dad". Both are
Mom. We would just honor both moms on Mother's Day.
Please
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