A)
So true. When I informed my mother of my intent to retire from my
teaching career to teach, consult, and write about etiquette, she asked
why. She assumed manners were still taught in school.
Perhaps
this is part of the problem. Everyone is incredibly busy; we have
more single parents, working parents, and children’s schedules are so full that
a ten-year-old needs a cellphone calendar to stay organized—no one has spare
time.
This
is the new family dynamic and parents act as if they assume that others are
responsible for etiquette training. Perhaps parents assume their
children will learn vicariously through school or some after-school activity,
plus they don’t want to waste any of their time correcting their
children. I suppose they feel as if they need to be the ‘good guy’
when sharing the limited time they have with their children.
Q) How
would you define the state of manners today?
A)
A brief glimpse at the local newspaper confirms that we, as a society, are
becoming ruder and less conscious of the effect our actions have on those
around us. Social media has allowed us to defame others from a
distance without assuming any responsibility for the negative effect it has on
its intended. Individuals assault each other in grocery stores over
masks. Children commit horrendous crimes at incredibly young
ages.
In
the last four years, good manners disappeared so quickly that we didn’t even
see its passing, somewhat like a new extinct species. The one
positive is that some are noticing their lack of manners (proper etiquette) and
are requesting help. This leads me to believe that manners won’t
completely die off.
Q) Why
is interest in manners trending up now?
A)
I didn’t realize that manners are trending. Could it be true that I
would be in vogue for the first time in my life? Well, if so, I am
incredibly pleased to hear it.
My
dear husband always says that the pendulum can swing only so far before
swinging back. The last four years have been the ugliest in recent
memory. So perhaps that pendulum is swinging back into the light of
good manners.
Additionally,
many are now faced with situations for which they are entirely unprepared: out
of work, lack of jobs, and fear of what the future may bring. Because many were
raised without manners training, it may seem as if others are speaking a different
language as they venture outside their comfort zone seeking a new
career. Etiquette training—which is basically people skills—should fill
in those gaps.
Please
Read
How Children
Are Teaching Their Parents Manners
Beware
Sharing Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites
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