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Beware Sharing Too Much & Hurting Others on Social Networking Sites

Beware sharing too much on social media networks

Have you ever been dumped by a boyfriend, girlfriend, or just a friend-friend?  It isn’t a great feeling and can be devastating, especially when it comes at us as a complete and total surprise. Like, “Gee, I didn’t see that coming.” 

Now, imagine if all your friends and a bunch of strangers were in on it before you, as if your significant advertised it in the New York Times.  Is this how you would wish to be treated?  Just thinking about it brings about the image of a hammer hitting a delicate vase creating a pile of shattered glass where once stood a beautiful flower vessel…and there goes another heartache. 

Well, this appears to be a current popular trend on social networks like Facebook, which is a site built to help all of us stay connected with our friends and family, a place to make friends, to build relationships, and to keep them.  However, we can also crush a relationship by changing our status from “in a relationship” to “looking” on our profile page. So, much for good intentions.  Nevertheless, when using good online manners, the site really is a good idea. 

It is just unfortunate that some people seem to have forgotten the simplest of manner’s training: to treat others as we would have them treat us.  This we learn as very young children.  And most of us learn that it is despicable to publicly humiliate others.  This type of behavior is a huge no-no. 

Another major social networking no-no is to post very personal information on our profile page for all to see.  Scores of people share pictures of their drunken party fun or scantily clad images for comment. 

I’m sure mom wouldn’t be too pleased.  But the biggest issue is that these pictures can also be viewed by potential employers or the newest significant other.  These pictures never really disappear, plus they can be forwarded by others.  Countless people have lost the dream job because of this very mistake.  Of course, just chatting with friends about personal views could be a problem as well.  These views just might clash with those of a potential employer.  This was proven recently. 

Lastly, a poor choice of language, inflammatory or profane, or just using poor grammar reflects badly on us as well.  After all, how we express ourselves does help define who we are to others.  So, exercise caution when you share in cyberspace. 

Absolute Social Networking No-No (s)

  • Cyber Dumping
  • Sharing personal information
  • Posting racy or potentially embarrassing photos
  • Posting hateful or untruthful gossip about others
  • Using profanities
  • Using poor grammar

Please Read

Are Good Manners Dead?

Everyday Manners: Interview for Sacramento Press About Importance of Good Manners

How to Meddle 

 

 

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