Holiday Etiquette: Q & A for ABC10
When Dina Kupfer contacted me for a segment she was compiling, I jumped on the opportunity to assist her. Her questions are perfect for this time of year. What follows are my answers to her excellent questions.
What
to wear?
Ask
the host what his/her dress code/expectation are. Other than that, dress
for the type of party it is. If it is a cocktail party, wear attire that
is more formal. One main rule is to dress more formally than for a
non-holiday party. The other is for women to dress conservatively, which
means, “Minimize the cleavage”.
What
to bring?
Other
than the typical block party or family gathering, a host shouldn’t expect the
guest to bring any part/portion of the party. A host, hosts.
However, a good guest always asks and provides the item. That said, a
good guest always brings a “hostess gift”. This can be flowers, candy,
wine, etc., or something specific that focuses on the host’s particular
preferences.
How
much should you eat/drink?
This
varies. If it is a dinner, it’s polite for the guest to try everything
placed in front of him/her. If it is a party, sample items. Don’t
consider it an entire meal unless the party is planned during a mealtime.
Even then, consider how many refreshments there are compared to the number of
guests—only consume your fair share. Never drink alcohol to excess!
Inviting
a plus-one to a holiday party or a friend’s home – is it ok to ask? If so, how?
It’s
never polite to invite a guest to another’s party. A polite manner in
which to approach this is to mention that you would have loved to attend but
have a guest. This may encourage the host to invite your guest to his/her
event.
What
to bring to a party for those who celebrate holidays differently?
Be
honest. If you are unsure of how the type of holiday party is celebrated,
inform the host. Then ask what is typical for guests to bring. Take a
hostess gift for the event as well.
How
best to deny a holiday invite politely?
Typically,
most of us are very busy this time of year. So, it is perfectly fine to
thank the host for the invitation and state that you are unable to
attend. Giving a reason is not necessary.
How
much should you expect to pay a babysitter on a holiday?
It
is most polite to double the typical babysitting fee during the holidays.
However, money is not the only option. A thoughtful gift included with the
typical babysitting fees.
Please
Read
Holiday
Tipping Interviews on the Today Show & KCRA Interviews
How to
Survive The Holidays When Daily Life Interferes
Holiday
Dinner Party Etiquette: Minding Your Manners During the Holidays
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