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Don’t Fly a U.S. Flag Before Learning the Etiquette Involved

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All funerals are an emotional experience filled with some sort of protocol.  However, those participating in a military funeral practice and perform every movement with precision.   Every fold of our flag, every movement, and every gesture is carefully executed.   Witnessing all the intricate protocol at the recent funeral of a relative piqued my interest to study flag etiquette. 

When I want to learn as much as I possibly can, I go to the source for my research.  In this case, I read as many government sources as I could find and discussed the subject with military members responsible for performing flag rituals. What follows is what I learned. 

Mourning

When stated by presidential or gubernatorial order, an official mourning period is typically reserved for designated government leaders.  Although the flag is flown at half-staff, it is raised to the top of the staff for an instant, lowered to the halfway position, and then again raised to the top for a moment before it is lowered. It is quite dramatic. 

Gettysburg Flag Works states that for "Memorial Day the flag is displayed at half-staff until noon and at full staff from noon to sunset."

When covering a coffin, it is placed with the union (the starfield) at the head and over the left shoulder and never lowered in the grave.

Don't (s)

As a greeting gesture we often nod our head to a person on the street.  Conversely, this is considered impolite with a flag; never tip our flag toward a person or thing.  There are specific rules about what we do not do to our nation's symbol.

  • Don't fly the flag upside down.  This is a distress signal.
  • Don't use the flag for decoration or advertising purposes.
  • Don't use the flag as decoration on items intended for commercial use.
  • Don't use the image as part of a costume. Exceptions: military, police, fire, or patriotic uniform.
  • Don't attach a sign, mark, insignia, letter, word, number, figure, etc. to a flagpole, or flag.
  • Don't use it to carry anything.

The Treatment of Our Flag

We treat our flag with tremendous respect and delicately, as if it is special.  Two people raise and lower it quickly with great ceremony while never allowing it to touch the ground or anything else.  When lowering it, one person gathers the flag as one lowers it.  Then both fold and store it neatly. 

As the flag becomes frayed and beyond appropriateness, it is retired gracefully and is burned in a "dignified manner".  It is most appropriate to find designated agencies to perform this duty. Until that point, it is to be kept clean and mended. 

Display of Respect Expected from Nonmilitary Civilians

Hand over our heart for nonmilitary, we salute our flag as it is raised and lowered.  Civilian men should remove their hats.  And if pledging allegiance, we stand at attention, face the flag with our hand over our heart while reciting the verses.  If the national anthem is played, civilians stand with the right hand over heart until the song is finished.

Rules for Flying the Flag Outside

Displayed from a window, balcony, or building:

  • The starfield is at the top of the staff unless the flag is at half-staff.   

Displayed with another flag:

  • If on the same flagpole, the US flag is at the top.
  • No other flag may be larger.
  • No other flag may be above it.

If on a different flagpole, the US flag is on its right.

  • The US flag is first up and last down.

Flags of other countries should be on separate poles and should be the same size.  All the flags should be raised and lowered at the same time and should be the same height.

Fly the flag vertically when displayed over a street (starfield positioned north or east).

The canton is farthest from the building when it is flown over a sidewalk.

Do not fly after sunset unless it is illuminated.  

Indoors?

Place the US flag on the right, always in the place of honor.  Say there is a speaker at a function, the flag would be placed on the speaker's right.  All other flags are placed to the left. When there are a group of flags, the US flag is placed in the center, higher than the others.  Yet, when our flag's staff is crossed with the flag of another, the US flag's staff is in front with the flag on its own right.

There are times that we would want to display the US flag against a wall.  It doesn't matter if it is displayed vertically or horizontally, the starfield would be at the top, to its own right, and to the observer’s left.

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Photo creditFile:Flag of the United States.svg - Wikipedia  public domain 

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