Everyday Manners: How to Become a Kinder, Better Citizen

Reflecting & Setting Goals for a Kinder Future

Another new year with many possibilities is upon us. As exciting as this is, it is also a time for reflection. The last few years brought us bankruptcies, home foreclosures, and loss of jobs as we witnessed a near meltdown in our financial systems and our economy. The pandemic has killed, not only businesses but hundreds of thousands of our loved ones. We sat in horror, eyes glued to our television and computer screens watching the disgraceful terrorism on our Capitol Building. And each day, we continue to experience and witness horrifying shootings.

As we reflect upon all that has happened and the many obstacles we have had to traverse, let us also reflect upon who we want and need to become, as individuals. Because after this tumultuous time, our communities, country, the entire world needs to come together in a civil manner.

What can each of us do to contribute? A great beginning is to learn more about each other. If we know our neighbors, we are less likely to hurt them and vice versa. Furthermore, we should be open to help others and commit random acts of kindnesses for all around us.

My promise for this next year is to become a more courteous, kind, and considerate person. I will find every opportunity to help others as the need arises. All of us can help turn the tide of incivility. It just takes the will to do it.

What is your focus for this next year?

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