How to be a Great Host

When you've decided to hope a gathering. You are now a host which means: you invite, you pay. Hosts provide all refreshments and food. Never ask guests to bring the party.

If you invite, you entertain.

Entertain your guests by inviting interesting people with similar views. Interact with your guests and always ensure they are never thirsty or hungry. They shouldn’t have to ask for anything.

Do not frighten your guests with formality.

Set the table with no more than three forks at a time even for a very formal party. And forget the finger bowls for heaven’s sake.

Do not write ‘adult only event’ on the invitation.

This is insulting to parents. However, we can imply it by listing the party as a ‘cocktail party’ and by scheduling it later in the evening. Also, use an RSVP. Ask the guests to call you so you can verbally inform them that this event is best child-free due to alcohol or the time of day.

Do not expect or ask for gifts...

... even if this is a party to celebrate an adult birthday, new home, or anniversary.

If you receive a hostess gift, receive it with a smile. If it is a bottle of wine, it is a gift; it is your decision to open it or not. However, because so many do not know that a gift bottle is a gift, a great host would try to elicit information slyly.

Perhaps say, "This looks like a great bottle, would you like me to open it with dinner?" The guest may now choose whether they wish for you to open it or if it is meant for your collection.

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