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New year, new abode? You’re registering? Really?

Welcome Home sign; housewarming 

Celebrating the new year with a new home?  If so, you may be considering a housewarming party to break the new place in.  Often homeowner hosts this commonplace party for close friends, family, and—perhaps—a few new neighbors.  The premise is that you are "warming your home with love."

Not stuff from others.

While gifts are common, they are typically small token gifts, such as candles, picture frames, wine, plants, or a coffee table book.  However, gifts should never be expected and never the focus. 

No gift table.  It’s not polite.

There seems to be a bit of confusion surrounding this simple tradition.  In fact, some are confusing this party with a bridal shower, even calling it a "housewarming shower."  Regrettably, some homeowners register and expect expensive gifts from their guests.  Frankly, there is no such thing as a housewarming shower. 

A housewarming shower has never been a thing.

Embarrassingly, when homeowners act on this confusion, they may appear...well, less than socially savvy.  Through the decades, guests to these types of parties write to me about their disgust.  These comments are not positive.

Heed my advice and avoid the label: socially inept.

Interestingly, this fad began as a promotion by a few large store chains.  Their premise focused on convincing their customers to register for everything.  And why not?  This is good business, but poor manners.  It's also unfair to guests, discourteous, and illogical.  We don't, or at least shouldn't, create a gift-giving event for ourselves.  If it were not so, we could host a birthday party for ourselves each year, register, and expect gifts and cash.

Ground Hog's Day party anyone??  I need a shovel.

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